Stop all the pine box ****, are you a drama queen?
A woman after my own heart.
Im sorry , but you ( poster) sound like you are a bit needy and overly dramatic about things.
At 19 , a little girl can handle that. She can even dish it out. She will live in, create and feed her own overly dramatic behavior. You two matched then.
She has grown out of that and does not match you anymore. Dont be a leach on her ass by telling her " I wont leave you until I die!! To death to we part"" and all that other stuff. You are an adult. You are strong, intelligent and you have self respect yes? Then why throw yourself around hoping she will come back and trying to manipulate her by saying things like that? Telling someone that " one of us will leave only in a pine box" is scary, manupilative, overly dramatic, disrespectful and just.. stupid
That sounds like something a teenage BOY would say.
be a man. Be mature. Help her along her way.If she loves you and you two work well together, she will be back... but this extreme 'star crossed lovers' stuff is for the birds.
Now how do you fix things?
I think you may not remember the extreme changes you went though in your early twenties .
hell, I dont think anyone does.
But I would suggest REALLY giving her some space. REALLY letting her learn and backing away.
If you choose to smother her right now you are -giving her ammo to leave you- on , and she will use it.
I do wish you the best of luck, but please don't be so needy and overly dramatic. That is "woman repellent" in the worse way and will smash any hope you have of getting this relationship on track.