We are in Texas and my 18 year old daughter is pregnant out of wedlock. She has found a loving family that wants to adopt but the birth father won't sign over his rights, yet he doesn't want to parent himself and my daughter is forced to parent. Someone needs to review the laws, because she would not have to have the birth father's permission to abort (which she would never consider), but she cannot place the child for adoption without his consent. Somebody please help me to understand this.
The biological father cannot lawfully exercise any dominion or control over your daughter's womb. It is her decision whether to bear a child.
However, once a child is born, the biological father's rights and duties are equal to the biological mother's rights and duties so long as the biological father takes affirmative steps to establish his paternity. No one is forcing your daughter to be a parent against her will. If your daughter does not want to parent the child, she may sign away her rights and surrender the child for adoption. (I don't know whether the State of Texas allows private adoptions through private attorneys or whether the child must be surrendered to a state approved adoption agency.)
If the biological father makes no effort to establish paternity, to support the child, and to bring a court action to obtain custody of the child within the time established by state law, then he has forfeited his rights and his consent to adopt is unnecessary. When the adoptive parents move the court to finalize the adoption, the biological father's parental rights will be terminated.