DOES SHE KNOW THAT HE IS STILL IN LOVE WITH HER?

Yo, I mean this in the best possible way... You need some counseling. You're coming across more and more as a stalker. This is your fourth thread on this topic today. You are considering contacting this woman?? This guy has told you he is not interested in you (repeatedly) and that is to his credit. It's clear that if he wanted to, he could use and abuse you then dump you for his true love. Despite his every attempt to be honest with you and put you off, you continue to dwell on this relationship that isn't. Before you do something that you and your friend will regret, you need to talk to someone. Does the school have some service you can utilize? I'm not trying to be a jerk here, but some of your posts are really borderline.

Maybe you're right, but have you ever felt like this for someone? Probably not. I want him and only him. The things that he talks about his exgirlfriend are so pure....that's why I am so jealous of her.

I don't claim to be an expert, but your fixation on him, his purity of love for his girl, how special he is, etc doesn't sound healthy to me. First, I doubt he is the angel you suggest if only because no one could possibly meet the romantisized standard you've expounded on here. Second: HE IS NOT INTERESTED IN YOU. If he were even slightly interested in you, he would probably lead you on a little, flirt a little, etc while making it clear he was taken, but you aren't even getting that. He's really, no kidding, not interested. Not as a backup girl, not as a part-time fling, not as anything other than a friend. If you can't accept that, you need to talk to someone who can direct your energies in a productive direction.

Well put, engineer. I have been on the edge of strongly suggesting counseling to yoyo too. In fact, I think that's imperative.

What difference does it make if SHE knows?

He's so smitten with her that he cannot move on.

There's no room for anyone else - and that includes you.

Now, as a medical student, I am sure you have your career to concentrate on.

You are getting obsessed with him and his life
Why is that??

It's not that I am obsessed with him, but I have never met a guy like him in my life. It may sound crazy, but he is just perfect. Physically and mentally. He is the total package.

well obviously you've never met The Dys.

or gus for that matter.


(sigh) that big hunk of ratzenhoferism.

No, no obsession here. Obviously not. "He's just perfect. Physically and mentally. He is the total package." Nope, no obsessions here. (Delusion maybe?) However, since he is mentally perfect and has already used his perfect brain to identify the perfect girl, maybe you should move on.