@carriegirl1,
I'll add another comment re love and in love. I'm quite the older poster and I still don't know. I pretty much disagree with Debra Law and her source about the necessity for being in love, which I think of as the beginning infatuation stage, that it by nature doesn't last, unless puffed up by what I think of as the impossibility scenario, which is when people have affairs, with the excitement of the clandestineness of that.
But long term love is - to me - likely, but not always, started like that, but grows from behavior, going through things together and growing closer, at the same time growing individually.. and all that can have big trying periods, when infatuation is the last thing on your minds while you keep trying to communicate. And caring needs response, a two way street, or it fizzles out, or should fizzle out. When love does last through the years, there still can be a sense of 'in love', er, on the good days, but not that euphoric beginning flume, more of a deeper connection.
Still, I'd look at boring and annoying and not just toss it off. Life is long, marriage can be longer.