Does he want an affair?

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I work as a nurse in a hospital. I have been married for 7 years. My coworker, who is a physician, works in the same department as I. He has been married for 29 years. He is a very nice, attractive man and seems to flirt with me everytime he see's me. I have a crush on him even though he is 26 years older than I. He has asked me to call him numerous times and makes it his point to touch me in soft seductive ways. He inquires about my work schedule and future plans. He stares at me a lot then comes over to my station to speak and touch me. Although I like him, I can't help to think is he just flirting cause it's a taboo (age difference, attractiveness, or etc). When he flirts with me, he does it so everyone can see. My coworkers instigate what they see and has mad jokes about us in front of us. I am not sure what he wants. Does he want an affair? Is he just flirting? Does he like me? I haven't called him. I am very shy and I blush when he comes my way. He acknowledges the fact that I am shy and smiles when I blush.

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@missysweets,

You are married.

Shouldn't your first question be about whether you want an affair?

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More than likely, you'll be just one on a very long list of conquests.

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I think the good doctor needs some lessons in how to be discrete. I suspect he cares more about the impression he makes in the workplace, than the effect he has on you. That’s not necessarily a bad thing or unusual thing, as long as you are aware of it.

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@missysweets,

Hello missysweets, welcome to A2K.

I see lots of unanswered questions popping out to me from your post....

How long have you worked at this hospital? How long has the dr been your coworker? Are his attentions new? How happy are you in your marriage? Do you have small children? Does your crush on him stem from his attentions or did your crush start before he started flirting with you? Do the jokes from your coworkers bother you or do you think it's all in good fun?

There are so many possible angles to this that it really requires more background. Even then, we can only guess as to his true motives.

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He's having FUN, FUN, FUN with you!!

The fact that he pulls this "act" in front of others, (and they comment on it) tell me he's on stage and enjoying seeing your reaction.

Chances are, if you contacted him, he'd back off.

He's just flirting. And he's doing it in a safe, public place. It means nothing to him .

Now . . . do you enjoy being the brunt of his joke? \

If not, tell him to stop being such a flirt; he's making a fool of himself.
I have a feeling he will move on to another victim.

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You don't say how long you have worked there, nor how long you have worked in the field. I am going to guess that this is all new to you. The most likely interpretation of this dynamic is that he is being a old school doctor. Until recently it was accepted that doctors flirt with nurses, it was all in good fun and there was no intent of malice. There was also no intent to take the relationship beyond flirting, which was understood by both side.

My advise would be to talk to the nurse that has been working with this doctor the longest, if you trust her, and ask her what he is up to.

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@missysweets,

He is flirting .for sure........and being a married woman ,you should be loyal towards UR partner,otherwise leave him.

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@dxb99,

I think first of all you should take your marriage into consideration. Are you happy with your husband? You are much younger than this doctor and it seems to me that he probably likes to feel that he can attract someone much younger than he is.

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Does he want an affair?

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