Some of you know I am dealing with chemo and breast cancer right now. I am dealing with it on a personal level and checking out things that help me spiritually, mentally, etc.
Would some of you describe me as uncompassionate? Among other descriptions of old Bathy, people have never called me unfeeling. I tend to care too much about other people's feelings and I am very sensitive. I am usually cheerful (Irish
) and have a 'cheery' sense of humour most of the time....ok, this is my question:
We have an old friend. My hubby has known him for more than 40 years. The guy has been divorced most of that time but in the past few years has been living with a woman. Old friend has, shall we say, tons of money. New girlfriend has no income, and that's ok with us if it's ok with him. The thing is, when I met her last year, she seemed (ok, call it my female intuition) sneaky, or something. Couldn't put my finger on it. I did notice all the expensive changes done to old friends house, where they were living. House has since been sold. Old friend has done zilch to this place since he bought it 10 years ago, a real curmudgeon on the hill
She said as long as 'he has the money for her to fly back & forth from Calif to Hawaii (where they have bought a house)' she will do it, to see her kids. She seems usury but I was friendly to her, since I was only there overnight I couldn't really get to know the kind of person she is. Old friend calls frequently to talk to hubby but girlfriend never gets on the phone to say hi to Bathy and is rarely there.
She knows me not at all, yet she sends me a book called 'Comfortable with Uncertainty" which is about cultivating - fearlessness & compassion!! I know that girlfriend is into self help books, and I did mention when I talked to her face to face when I first met her a few years ago that I don't read them because I don't find them useful. I resent her assumption that I am number one: fearful and number 2, lacking compassion.
What book do you recommend I send her? Or should I just wrap this up and send it back with some note on it? I mean, if she can't even say a few words to me during hubby and old friend's frequent conversations, who lacks compassion?
Or maybe I'm making mountains out of molehills.....
Dianne
Bathy