@Eorl,
Quote:Thank you aidan, this is a great response, very honest and considered, from someone in a position to see at least some of the reality of this issue. I don't really want to argue with your opinion, because you've held a similar view as me and you aren't in the market to re-purchase!
What was interesting to me was that after I wrote that and then began the back and forth conversation with Okie - I realized I was still in the default mode of arguing against capital punishment - because that really is my natural inclination.
I really don't believe in evening scores - but as a woman with children in this world, I do want to be able to feel safe - so I have no issue at all with dangerous people being punished for their crimes and put somewhere where they can't hurt anyone else.
I said that it was with sadness that I started realizing some things after I'd observed for a while and it was and still is - to the point that I don't know if I can continue my work with these offenders anymore.
When I started, I really, really believed that a difference could be made for them, and rehabilitation was possible.
Now I'm not so sure and it depresses the hell out of me - because if I did think it was all a matter of societal reform and prison reform - I'd have some hope- but as I said, it's finally gotten through my thick skull I think that some people just can't be helped to change...and believe it or not that's new to me and it does really, really depress me.
Because I don't know what the answer is in terms of what can then be done with/for them. And in some cases, I don't think there is a viable and humane answer.
What we're doing right now isn't working. Not for them and not for our society.
When I said maybe it'd be more merciful to help them end it - what I meant was that contrary to what's depicted , a lot of times these guys aren't sitting there rubbing their hand together looking forward to the next victim with unfettered glee.
It really is a compulsion - torturous in some instances - like those who wash their hands and get relief of some sort - but until the moment they give in and wash their hands again, they're constantly and frantically struggling against the urge to do that.
Every minute of their lives. Can you imagine? I can't. I think I'd rather that someone just help me make it all be over.
This whole subject is really interesting to me, and I think I've come full circle in terms of my thinking. When I started out teaching- I was working with developmentally at risk infants and toddlers. Then I started teaching highschool, then adult offenders - but when I think of where the effort needs to be - I'm back to thinking we need to change things for these people from the ground up - from infancy.
So many offenders have suffered abuse and are functionally illiterate - there's an amazingly strong correlation.
I don't think anything will change until we change some of the realities in our society (I'm talking about America - and England here-those are the two societal and prison systems I've observed personally) that continue to foster illiteracy and hopelessness and all the rest of it.
In terms of amputations...I can't picture that. I really do like these guys - when I was working at the prison and I saw someone without a coat when it was cold outside- that was hard enough to watch for me.
I really did mean it when I said that sometimes I think the death penalty is a kindness. I'm really not into watching people suffer - even if they're people who would watch or cause other people to suffer. That's just not my thing.
I do believe however - that they should be stopped from hurting other people somehow.