@chai2,
Married
and a co-worker? Are you really dying to mess up your life?
She has you aroused. Fantasies about her are exciting. Thinking about her adds excitment to your day.
Quote:i cant get her out of my mind , come on help plz.
Because getting involved with her could be disasterous for you, start thinking about her in negative ways. Regard her as if she has a disgusting, easily transmittable sexual disease. Imagine her getting you fired from your job for sexually harrassing her. Imagine her husband coming after you to beat your brains out. Think about anything that will be a turnoff.
When you are with her, talk only about work. If she starts talking about personal matters, abruptly shift the subject back to work--don't let her go on, don't let her keep talking, don't respond to her, don't seem interested. Don't engage in chit chat about anything except work. Don't encourage her to keep calling you to help her with her work. When she calls you and asks for help, mention how busy you are. Keep her waiting, don't go rushing over to help. Encourage her to ask other people for help, or, if you know another co-worker who can help her, send that person over the next time she calls you.
There are zillions of lovely, nice, lusty, unattached women who are dying to meet a nice guy. Don't deprive those needy ladies of a chance to be with you. Look around, find one, and then follow gustavratzenhofer's advice.