@The Pentacle Queen,
I origionaly posted this on the relationship and marriage board, but I'm going to post it here too.
I was wondering if a christian could possibly answer the following for me:
Obviously christianity condemns homosexuality, but what does it actually condemn? The act of sex, or the act of love?
And by love I don't mean friendship, father/son love, comradeship, admiration, warrior bonds between men or anything similar.
I mean the sort of love that is usually found inside a relationship.
Imagine a non-consummated relationship between a boy and girl, perhaps the sort of a couple who are enaged, but between two men.
What does christianity say of this? Why is this sort of love wrong?
Love has many definitions, because there are many different kinds
of love. But Love in its purest form is unconditional. Something we will never be capable of giving. The problem with most of what you said is the conditions all of it contains. We are born into a conditional world. "I'll love you if...", " You can have what you want if..."
Or in the case of your examples, "I love you because your a man and I am physically attracted to men" or "I love you because your a woman and I am supposed
to love women." Unconditional love is actually, literally, UN... Conditional. There is no circumstance or thing that can change it. The best example I've seen of this in life is the love you find when you have a dog.
If you are or ever have been so lucky to experience having a dog. It is a one of a kind thing that compares to no other. A dogs love touches a person's soul, because the love runs so deep. They are not just a companion that you feed twice a day, throw a table scrap to, and take out to potty.
They are the friend that always listens. No matter what your mood may be.
They are the one who doesn't judge you or criticize you, no matter what you say, or how you feel.
They don't measure their love for you based on your behavior, thoughts, or ideals.
They are the one who senses things about you that sometimes you don't even realize just yet. Like the depth of your saddens over losing someone. Or exuberant joy over a promotion at work.
If you grieve, they will grieve with you. If you rejoice, they will rejoice with you. But most of all... They will always... Always... Love you, and be faithful to you whether you deserve it or not.
In thinking about all of this I don't think that love, what kind of love, or who has the love for who is really the issue. All of our love is conditional in some way and can't really be compared to unconditional love. But... From the "Christian" perspective, if it must be labeled... Think about this:
In Gen 1:27 it says:
27 So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.
Assuming this is true... (because I am making a point here from the perspective of those who believe, not creating a new argument on creationism) That would mean the Creator has both male and female attributes. I'm not talking about physical attributes either. We are so much more than that.
I'm talking about the unseen attributes. As an example: Men tend to be equipped with less emotional reaction to things which is an advantage that gives them the ability to think and see clearer in stressful situations... And fix them.
In women though it is a strength as well. Perhaps not right in the stressful situation. However, prior it can be an asset in that women are more sensitive to changes in their emotional atmosphere than men tend to be. This can help them detect molehills before they become mountains. After a stressful situation it can be an asset in the aiding of healing or mending broken pieces.
If you look at the differences and similarities in men and women, each ones weakness serves as a strength for the other. We were designed to complete each other, and through that completion to multiply and be fruitful. Now, the being fruitful issue aside, as it has been used to beat people nearly to death by religion, lets talk about the completion side of it.
All of the physical things aside, a man cannot complete a man, nor can a woman complete a woman.