How to ask for friends

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I haven't made any friends since I was in high school 30 years ago and don't know what to say or do or how to act? I am dining out with a casual female aquaintance this week, and would like to ask them to be my friend, how do you suggest I do this?

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I'm no social butterfly Smitty, but I don't think you 'ask' someone to be your friend. Friendships are borne out of a regularity of consensual contact that is more or less spontaneously initiated by either party (preferably by both equally). I hope someone with some actual friends will buy into this one.

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hingehead wrote:

I hope someone with some actual friends will buy into this one.

Do we have any of those people on A2K?

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:wink:

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Smitty, we joke. Sorry. Asking for help with social interactions on an online forum is interesting. While we have a vast membership to learn from, we are a bunch of people who know each other electronically. Asking here is good because you remain anonymous unless you decide not to be.

Good luck.

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Make it official, with a friendship bracelet!

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Will you be my friend, Gargamel?

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gustavratzenhofer wrote:

Will you be my friend, Gargamel?

What color bracelet would like, Gus?

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Anything but green and gold.

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gustavratzenhofer wrote:

Anything but green and gold.

I must say, though you were missed, you couldn't have timed your hiatus more perfectly, in light of recent events.

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I agree with hingehead.
You can't ask her to be your friend. That would freak her out. Just be friendly, make sure you two have a good time, and its bound to naturally become a friendship.

Or... if you want her to know you value her companionship, just say a Thank You at the end of your dining-out and mention that you'd love to do this again.
Nothing more than that.

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gustavratzenhofer wrote:

Anything but green and gold.

I find this racially offensive. Put up your dukes!

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Smitty, come back.... talk to us.

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loveislikearose3 wrote:

Or... if you want her to know you value her companionship, just say a Thank You at the end of your dining-out and mention that you'd love to do this again.
Nothing more than that.

I should add that I would only do this if we both had genuinely had a good time. Insincerity blows. I'm guessing you are opposite genders, if friendship is truly what you want I'd be careful that your desire for friendship isn't misinterpreted as a desire for something more romantic.

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hingehead wrote:

I should add that I would only do this if we both had genuinely had a good time. Insincerity blows. I'm guessing you are opposite genders, if friendship is truly what you want I'd be careful that your desire for friendship isn't misinterpreted as a desire for something more romantic.

Yeah, I agree. But it seems to me that Smitty really wants to keep this friendship going, which means that no matter if it was really a great time or not, he would love to go out with him/her again, anyways.
But yes, the last point was perfect. You definitely don't want to give the wrong impression.

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gustavratzenhofer wrote:

Anything but green and gold.

I too object. but not all that strenuously.

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