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Mon 4 Aug, 2008 10:12 am
I was due to get married nxt year and in order to help save for wedding i took on a part time job on top of my full time one. My other half works full time and also does farming for his family at wkends - however this doesnt make him any extra money.
So in May i got a part time job and started working wkends. It meant i only got to see him either fri night or sat/ sun during the dayif he wasnt farming.
His mum has been butting in and saying i should be making more effort to see him but i cant. He wanted to get married as he doesnt agree to living together - his mum doesnt approve. so i had no option but to marry him so we could be together.
On sat night while at work i found it really hard and just wanted to go home and go c him. so i txtd him.
On sun when id had no reply i phoned and he said that why didnt you leave the job and come c me? i tried to explain that im doing it to help him and us save but now its over as he says we have no relationship.
I now need to know do i give ring back if he asks for it. I bought him loads of stuff and its all here at my house. I asked him about his stuff and he said forget it. i cant believe that planning for a wedding can actually end a wedding.
If it helps at all (probably not right now, but maybe later it will) - if he bagged out of the wedding under these circumstances it sounds like an excuse and most likely he would have found another reason to get out.
This is what I have heard regarding engagement rings (at least from an attorney who by the way has been engaged several times, but for some reason her several engagements - all to different men have been broken off). If you get the ring as a gift - say at Christmas or as birthday present, it is considered a gift so you get to keep it. However, if you received it simply as part of the offer of marriage, you need to return it as it was given as part of a contract. Now I'm not really sure of the true legality, but that was her reasoning. But take it as you want as she as decided to keep an engagement ring because the guy broke it off - her reasoning he broke the contract so she gets to keep the ring.
I think she just always twisted things in her favor. But honestly - do you really want to keep something with sentimental value?
Keep the ring. And all of the other stuff too. Pawn it, take it to the Goodwill, whatever, but keep it all.
I believe that if he broke the engagement, you are entitled to keep the ring. If you did, that would be another story.
don't expect the dj to refund your deposit :wink:
eoe wrote:Keep the ring. And all of the other stuff too. Pawn it, take it to the Goodwill, whatever, but keep it all.
damn straight keep the ring.
he gave it to you regardless of the time of year, it's yours.
Keep the ring; you own it and did not cause the breakup. Be prepared, though, as he may want it back. Tell him you'll sell it to him.
He can want it from now until dooms day. That's no reason to give it to him.
keep it if you want it (i would not, but we're all different)
You two really do need to spend some time together
BEFORE the marriage. You don't even know each other!!!
If he can't do that - or make time for you - then you need to get on your way.
Sounds like he has Mama issues, too.
You are well out of it now, even if you ever get back together after years pass. Neither of you really know yourselves or each other. You have quite a rigid guy there, not meant as a pun, and I predict travail ahead if you two marry soon.
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