Bohne wrote:I would very much like to hear the other side to this story.
You say you trust your husband, but yet, you constantly seem to check up on him.
You write mails on his behalf.
You ask a lady whom he invited to dinner (for whatever reason), to pay him back.
I think all these things are out of order as much as him treating you badly.
So if both of you can go to councelling, I think that would be a wonderful idea.
1st I don't "spy" or check up on him.. these are every day things that are not hidden nor do I have to look very hard for. If his email is open on my computer and he asks me to look something up.. ummm yeah I am going to ask about certain emails. I go off gut feelings and this time it was very right! I don't like having to defend myself for going with my gut and knowing that something is not right at the time.. what I did was ok and my husband has that understanding. Yes.. he is my husband and I am aware of what is going on in his life just as much as he is aware of what is going on in mine.
2nd In regards to the emails.. he asked me to write it and that he was "ok" with it so I am not sure how that is not ok. Asking the lady to pay him back was not out of order! Her accepting the dinner was out of order! Him paying for the dinner was out of order! People take advantage of the fact that he is a gentleman and this was way out of order for this woman to do this.
Anyway.. you may view this as out of order but we (my husband and I) do not see it that way. All relationships are different.. thank goodness.. not everyone is going to do something the same way. I have not done anything wrong!
Yes going to talk to someone is a great idea.. Yes my husband realizes I feel this way.. and yes he has agreed to go .. lots and lots of talking in our relationship.. just two very strong minded individuals