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The scariest part about it (to me) is that this woman had a child
herself...a daughter, in fact, of around the same age apparently.
I surmise that she was avenging her daughter, for some unknown perceived offense.
It has been my observation
that females can be and have been more fierce
than males in vengeance, ESPECIALLY against other females; thay seem to relish anti-female vindictiveness.
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Quote:Hi, Rebecca; how 's everything ?
Good - winding up work and getting ready to travel a bit around seeing friends here before leaving for England in July.
I'm tired though - packing and stuff- mostly sorting out what I don't want because otherwise I'll pay to have packed and ship things like piles of old magazine. If you want your stuff to be insured - you have to let them pack it - and they come in and just pick up whatever's lying around and put it in boxes- so I need to get that organized. I have about another week before the packers come.
Quote:We know this to have been a shocking and despicable set of facts,
because we know how the story ended, but if I can play the Devil 's advocate here:
wud we feel the same way TO THE SAME EXTENT if Megan had just
brushed it off, and discontinued the cyber-relationship ?
How foreseeable was it that suicide wud result ?
Well that's what you never know when you're on the internet. I mean you could think you're talking to an adult and it may be a child. You might assume that everyone is as sane as you are (or at least as I am
) and in fact, they may be something else entirely.
I think it's always better to err on the side of safety - beside the fact that what fun is there in being cruel to someone you don't even know (much less someone you do know even if you don't particularly like them?)
I just don't get that part of it.
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Even if nothing like the girl's suicide had resulted -
it's also scary to me to think that there are people like this who are parents at all.
Remember that parenthood comes upon people unexpectedly
n accidentally, probably more ofen than not.
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These are the kind of people providing an example and role model for our children
(and those kids do affect all of us who have to spend time with them every day ).
Do u believe that most parents consider themselves to be role models ?
or that thay choose among their options
upon the basis of influencing children 's future behavior ?
Is there evidence of that ?
Not very much anymore maybe. I just use my parents as my example. They were/are just wonderful to me and to those around them. I've only ever heard my father talk bad about liberals and liberal politicians and my mother is a veritable saint. She lives to believe that people are good and kind. They were excellent role models for me - so when I became a mother, I knew how I wanted to be for my children.
I recognize other people didn't have those models, though. I don't know what the answer is.
It's hard to make people who are damaged whole enough to take care of themselves, much less children.
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And we wonder where children 'LEARN' cruelty.
I never wondered that.
I remember my first years of life,
including the children by whom I was surrounded.
Thay did not need LESSONS in cruelty; it was quite spontaneous.
I remember my own parents urging me to be more ez going;
advice that (at the time) I did not take seriously.
I was never subjected to very much cruelty as a child. But I'm surprised at your parent's reaction. I can't stand to watch chidren being cruel to other children. Whenever I see it - I tell the one who is cruel to cut it the hell out - I never tell the child who others are being cruel to to 'buck up'. Why should they have to?
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How sad - my heart goes out to this family.
Yes. Indeed.
How have you been? I was just thinking I hadn't seen you around and was hoping you were okay. It's been hard for me to post - I don't know why- the internet in terms of google and youtube has been fine - but a2k has been full of glitches for me the last few days.
Hope you are enjoying your summer. It's gorgeous here tonight - butterflies abounding - I don't think I've lived anywhere I've seen so many and honeysuckle and jasmine all in bloom. Peonies nodding into the grass everywhere- just beautiful.
I'll be in the city this weekend - but every minutes jam packed. I'm seeing some friend who are meeting me from Long Island for dinner - going to a concert and maybe a play - I'm trying to decide between Morgan Freeman in something called 'A Country Girl' and Lawrence Fishburne in Thurgood - about Thurgood Marshall. I like Morgan Freeman - but the Thurgood sounds more interesting to me.
But after I get back from NC around July 4th- I'll be around until July 23 staying at my parent's cabin on the border of NY/Vermont. I hope to come down to the city a couple of times. Maybe we can meet up for lunch or something.
Let me know.
Nice to hear from you David - wishing you well - Rebecca
