what is a romantic relationship?

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Re: what is a romantic relationship?


I'm in a romantic relationship with my husband. We do nice things for each other that often leads to sex. Sometimes we just hold hands. Sometimes he brings me trinkets he think will make me happy. Sometimes I drive long distances to get him his favorite ice cream flavor. He snaps my bra strap when he's impatient and wants to go home from a party. I rub his inner thigh when we at a bad movie and I'm getting bored. These are not things you do with just a friend.



In a successful relationship love lasts and evolves. It may not be the hot passion of the first few years, but the respect, caring, and consideration get stronger as the years go on.



Sure, if a person is comfortable with who they are and they have friends and family for love, I don't think they need a full time, live in mate.



In general, I think the "perfect partner" is someone who knows the best and worst about you and still loves you. S/he seeks to support you and make you feel good about yourself. S/he does not look to change you, but rather inspires you to be the best you can be. The perfect partner would share some of your interests, get your jokes, defend you when need the help, keep quite when you don't, and not let you walk out of the house with oatmeal in your beard or your skirt stuck in your pantyhose.

prelude to disappointment...

That sounds about right.

I have always known I'm in a romantic relationship when a man looks at me and says, "Come with me to the Casba"





I guess I've never been in a romantic relationship

I'm going to PM Mr.Tea and tell him to take you that Casba tonight...
I'm only giving you advance notice so you can have your veils and belly button ring ready.

and bathe....

I'll need some glitter for my washrag.

One where neither party falls into the trap of 'being comfortable', which to me is another phrase for 'not going the extra mile anymore'

Re: what is a romantic relationship?
[quote="rockpie"]just curious as to what different people would define a romantic relationship as.[/quote]

A relationship with romance...
Amids the normal every day life: Some flowers, a love letter, a surprise dinner, something special, something unexpected...

[quote="rockpie"]and also, does love last? [/quote]

Many say so, for me it has lasted for nearly seven years now, and no end in sight.
My husband picked me up from the airport recently, and admitted, that he had butterflies in his stomach, while he waited.
Is that romantic or what?
And I was only gone for a week!

[quote="rockpie"]can you be truly happy on your own? [/quote]

I was very happy on my own, but I am just as happy now!

[quote="rockpie"]what would your perfect partner be like? [/quote]

Funny and caring
Honest and understanding
Easy and sincere

I have found him already!

A romantic relationship is taking her to a pool suite in Northbrook, where you throw Taylor Dane's Greatest Hits in the CD player, a Tombstone pizza in the oven, and a Duraflame log in the fireplace (unless it's gas). Recite poetry to her (the more "olden day sounding" the better, believe me) as she slides down the mini-slide pool suites usually have and into your arms. Remember to bring your Speedo.

A romantic relationship also involves not telling her what is bothering you the morning after she fell asleep before you made love to her. The best thing is to just generally be mean until you feel better.

Finally, a true romantic couple ALWAYS makes out on the bus.

A2K inside joke . . .

Ha-ha. I remember (it involves Shewolf I believe).

A romantic relationship is waking up in the morning knowing the person next to you remembers your name, knows how it came to pass that he/she is next to you, and is not anxious for you to leave.

Had a few bad dates?

nope, not me.

Actually, this came up in a class I'm taking on Thomas Merton of all people. The discussion turned to the general topic of male vs female interpretations of romance. The consensus was that most woman have primarily romantic relationship as defined above, and most men (particularly men less than 30) do not.

Thomas Merton ? ! ? ! ?

I don't even want to know.

Does the goofy conclusion mean to claim that men (especially those under 30--what, 30 days sober? 30 hours?) don't have romantic relationships at all, or simply that they don't have romantic relationships of that type? That's one of those meaningless statements which has no meaning because one can choose to define romantic in a variety of ways.

no, not that they don't have them at all but that they are more interested in one night stands than women. Of course it's a generalization and stereotype.