adding spice to the marriage/need ideas for fantasies

The below is second hand knowledge cause I'm saving myself for marriage:


Standard Sex Stuff

Blindfolding :: blindfolding helps one focus on the tacitile sensations. I suggest one partner being blindfolded while the other performs oral sex.

Candles :: Candles are a no-brainer. The soft light is flattering to the naked body.

Costumes :: I am not sure but I think costumes and such getups work better on the man than the woman. By that I mean I believe the male would be more interested in seeing the female dress up than vice versa.

Handcuffs, bondage :: Some people react horribly to this type of thing. Others like it. On the low end of the scale is silk hankies tied gently. On the other end are leather straps chains etc. I'd recommend the silk scarf with the aforementioned blindfolding.

Different Positions :: People seem to have "comfort positions" and don't experiment much. There are hundreds of positions. Try em. Some work better than others for different reasons.

Anal sex :: in some cultures it would be a no-brainer. In the US this is still a bit rare. I'm not a big fan but some swear by it. Just another way to spice it up.

Humming :: It never ceases to amaze me at how many people I encounter who never tried hmming a tune.

Toys

Penis rings :: They can delay the male orgasm but furthermore some come with knobs/ stubs at the base for clitoral stimulation. I've seen one with a vibrating egg at the base.

Dildos :: No explanation really needed. My only suggestion is that it'd be useful for when the male is performing oral sex.

Food and Drink

Everybody knows whipcream and ilk. My suggestion is to use popsicles for temperature related sensations. Give him a cold shock.

Shaving

Shaving can make oral sex much much more enjoyable. Woth a thought.

Events

Don't have a waterbed? Go to a motel that does! Park, try it on the beach, on the road, try going out separately and meeting somewhere, never tried a haystack? Don't! Try it on a boat (a little row boat).

I should stop now before I ruin my saintly reputation but there are endless possibilities.

Making love in odd places - places with a hint of danger (or more than a hint, if you like) of being discovered, can be a real buzz - or so I have HEARD, from others.....of course....ahem...

Most cities have one of those motels with "theme rooms" decorated with some wild decor: jungle, tropical beach, outer space, wild west, knights and castles, medieval village, arabian flying carpet, etc, etc.

Most of them are really corny and sound silly, but I've enjoyed this -- Rent the Japanese Tea Room for two consecutive nights. It's the least tacky theme, and it's very peaceful and serene, with bamboo mats, sliding paper walls, and huge jacuzzi tub that fits four people.

Bring a cooler, glasses, champagne, picnic basket, crackers, cheese, fruit. Bring a microwave if they don't have one, and a boombox with your favorite relaxing CDs.

Stay inside for one whole complete day, from start to finish. Don't even open the front door. Sit in the jacuzzi for hours. Bring bubble bath and make it foam four feet high. One whole end of the suite may be tiled as a shower area, with multiple shower heads all over the place. Luxuriate in it. Read a book, trade massages, just hang out together with nothing to do but relax, chat, be with each other.

It's feels like being on vacation in a foreign country, no schedule, nothing that has to be done. Just hanging out in a beautiful, relaxing place.



Otherwise, maybe find some natural hot springs, or discover parks in your area. To explore each other in new ways, start by creating an exploring attitude within yourself -- explore everything, everywhere you can. Discover and appreciate all the little things around you. It's a different way of being! Once you're in that state of mind, the curiosity and playfulness spills over into the relationship and everything you do in life.

('Course, I'm just a guy. It might be different for women).

The beauty of porn plots is that they are simple, and you can laugh at them, and laughing together can bring about strange feelings...

Send him out to pick up a pizza, then greet him in sexy lingerie and say: "Hello....pizza man..." A good laugh, a good time, and a good meal should be had by all.

Make sure you tell him to ring the doorbell, of course.

Try challenging positions. The one I've been working on with Betty Lou (she's the only willing participant for this particulr endeavor) is standing up in a hammock. We have been unsuccesful so far, always falling down before we reach climax, but tonight, we shall try again.

My first thought was...."When was the last time you met him at the door?"...cavs got a better idea with the food and all.

One of my girlfriends swears by the accidental meating...it cracks me up but, if it works..its good.
He tells you some lounge/bar hes going to, you dress up (I think this changes for the mood and heightens his visual arousal and can do other things if you get really creative) and you go to the same place. You act like you dont know each other...and then get to know each other or just ask him if he'd take you home and make you a happy woman or some such thing.
I guess the thing is the new place, the surprise of what youd dress and or act like, and the spontaneous going home together.

Some other great and wonderful thoughts here already...Ive say you've got a few weeks of trying things out..good luck, have fun.

Don't be so quick to dismiss the effect costumes have on the female. She may not get as much umph! from the visual, but the planning, shopping, dressing and anticipation of the reaction is enough to have her motor purring for hours if not days.

Spend a weekend in one of those corny honeymoon hotels............you know, the ones with circular beds with mirrors on the ceiling, private pools and heart shaped bathtubs. Don't forget the bubble bath!

I've seen and heard of that. ;-) Thing is, men are easy and the costume night rarely, if ever, falls flat.