Marriages that successfully survived cheating?

If you read my original post.....recently married and need some help, you will see that I have gone through it myself.

As for an update, we are doing well, working through things day by day. Its been a hard path to go down and every now and then I start to wonder because it was with his ex that he has a child to.....but I am being strong and working this through.

Stay strong!

Not sure if what I have to say will help, buy one never knows and so I will share. My mother had an affair many years ago. She and my father had been married about 14 years or so at the time (I was 13). Dad found out about the affair when my mother's story for being out one evening didn't hold water. Anyway, as you can imagine, my siblings and I were pretty upset as mom moved out of the house (kicked out would be more like it I guess).

Now I cannot give you the details on why they made the decision to reconcile after a couple months since they obviously did not share their thinking with us kids, but I think they both realized that they still loved each other. I think mom knew she had made a mistake and was truly sorry for it. Long story short, they stayed together and this year will celebrate their 50th anniversary.

So yes, a marriage can survive infidelity. It takes some work (I know it did for my parents), but if both still love each other, the infidelity can be overcome.

Hope this is what you were looking for. Good luck and God bless.

A lot of people cheat, and a lot of times the cheating does not negatively impact the marriage. The test is how do you both respond to the cheating? do you take it as proof that something has gone wrong and then become determined to work together towards a marriage that you both gain from? If not then it is a negative. The working towards a better future does not necessarily mean a future where you both get all you need from each other and include no one else, for some people the solution is an open marriage or swinging or some variation of these. However, for most I think the goal of both partners is to get to a place where both are happy and fulfilled enough inside the marriage to have no desire to look outside. Check out the local mega-book store or online, there are many books that will bring you comfort that your situation is not hopeless.

In my current relationship I have no personal experiences to share.

However, a friend of mine cheated on her boyfriend, was even thinking of leaving him, but the other thing did not work out.
(Whatever I think of this behaviour is not asked here, so I won't go into it)

She finally confessed to him, which was probably a good thing, since the whole dive club she hangs out with knew about it, and sooner or later, he would have heard something I am sure.

However they worked through it, I do not know.
But they married soon after (that was about 14 months ago) and now have a set of two week old twins.

He even manages to be civil to her ex-lover.
Must be a hell of a man, and she is maybe luckier than she deserves, but they seem to make it work!