hey guys , thanks for the replies but I think a simple question has just just been looked into way too hard but I will reply to answers
and please I mean no disrespect when I say that .
we are italian so yes our house is a halfway house with unexpected visitors flat stick , both my wife and I actually do enjoy people coming over announced , or if its b4 9pm also un-announced .
my question again is " is it ok for a male work colegue to look up a married girl that works with him and go and visit her at her home " and visa versa .
there are no issues related to this person , it was alomost 10 years ago , they havnt worked together for many many years , and they havnt spoken for the same , I trust my misses full stop hence why there wasn't an argument back then either so this question is just an example of a situation .
my reply to this question is that there are bounderies you can't cross with co-workers and to look them up and pay them a visit to me indicates some type of obsession or problem . I work with many girls and some of them are stunners but if I decided to go to the staffbook or phonebook and look them up I'd feel very uncomfortable with it as I would actually consider myself a startup stalker . If the situation was different and there is a work function , parners meet and mingle with partners and you form a relationship in that sense over time and an invite is given in terms of " had a ball bloke if your ever in the area stop by " that's not a problem .