Re: Thanks
Hello nguyen2win,
I am glad that you're communicating your feelings and that you both
are open to talk about it. You have a better understanding where he's
coming from, and he knows now that you need far more than bondage
to make you feel loved and satisfied. Your relationship - as any -
should be balanced and mutually fulfilling, which means, you should share the responsibilities and you should share the decision.
Your paragraph below tells a different scenario. Your partner makes
all the decisions for himself and you, yet you have to aks him, if you
want to buy something. I think you should take responsibility from
now on, and contribute actively to the relationship in all aspects of
life. Don't be so passive!
nguyen2win wrote:I then asked him why he was into bondage so much. His reply was that it was the only place that he felt completely in control. Of course I laughed, because he handles everything in our relationship. He pays the bills, he does the grocery shopping, he does the laundry, he makes most of the final decisions on major subjects like buying a new car and he watches the kids on Saturdays because I work. He doesn't see that as a form of control just responsibility. However when he wants to buy something no matter what it is he buys it, but if I want to buy something I have to ask. Over all we some issues like most relationships, but they can be worked through.
I also wish you a pleasant Thanksgiving