I learned something interesting today.
You can report child abuse , online..
While i was holding , the message kept playing over and over again stressing that there was no wait if you choose reporting online.
The phone wait was over 15 minutes before I even got to make my selection about WHAT it was that I wanted to report.
About that time, I remembered what my friend does for a living.
She is a guidance counselor for abused and battered women.
So, a few bells went off in my head and I hung up with CPS constant recording and called her.
her game plan for me was to -
Start a written journal of dates, times and words
Call police (non emergency) and inform them of my plan to call cps and why
Stop talking to the family ( which is no issue as we don't speak beyond the polite hello when crossing paths)
So, I left the apt and called my landlord .
I sat in the car talking with him for almost an hour.
Im concerned with him and I will be seeing him again over the weekend to further discuss this problem.
He knows that they ( the family) are a mis-match to the building.
They have dead cars on blocks everywhere, they are loud, fighting.. all the things he doesn't want, but since they do not actually BREAK the lease in anyway, he has no ammo to move them.
I told him, that I was not calling him asking him to take action or to remove them from the premises. More just to keep him updated as to what is going on. Simply because if CPS jumps right in, and maybe removes the daughter, this might cause a financial hardship and they would have to leave.
I am asking nothing of him.
But he kept returning to what he could do to move them out.
I really left that conversation feeling like he was wanting to take action, but in the wrong way.
I don't want him to move them. Im not calling him to "file a complaint". I just think he should know about something like this.
Not to mention, if anything were to happen to us because of this phone call, I would want him to know as much as possible so that he could help us if need be.
He understood my reasoning, and gave me some information I needed but he made me really rethink calling.
I can not help but feel as though I am really over stepping my bounds.
The mother in this situation has no other real option for housing.
Since her husband is a felon, almost anyone who owns a rental property will say no. He keeps stealing from her, so her credit is extended beyond repair, and unless someone is willing to just rent to her sight unseen with out a background check, she has no where to go.
This call could make them homeless.
but, that is not my burden. She is a smart enough woman to know that she can leave this abusive husband, and she has not for many years.
but again, I am over thinking this situation.
I have filled out a complaint and sent it in via web.
But I am still going to call someone LIVE tomorrow.
Im just feeling really odd about this.
I don't question WHY im doing it, I just question the possible outcomes.
Worst case, she is NOT removed from the home, but other things happen and they are homeless, and she is subjected to even more abuse.