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hello all,

i met a man who is 10 years younger than i. we share a few interests and can laugh together.

i've been taking prozac for 13 years, have no raging sexual desires and am content with my life.

the man wants me to take a "female viagra" so that we can experience a "normal" male/female relationship. i told him to find a woman his age and enjoy himself, but he insists that he wants only to be involved with me. i suggested that we could enjoy a friendship and he could seek physical release elsewhere, but he refuses.

i feel that to want a potential partner to take medication to enable a sexual relationship is quite self-centered

how can i explain to him that his insistence is pushing me away from him?

thank you.

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myming- Welcome to A2K!

If you have to "explain" this to him, the two of you are not on the same "wavelength".

I think that you know the answer yourself. He wants a relationship on one level, and you want one on another. If you can't agree, it would be better for the both of you to part, and find people who are more in attune with you.

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Why not try kicking the Prozac. Maybe your sexual interest would revive. Of course, you might not be quiet so content with your life without medication.

Oh well, what do I know anyway. I was taking Lexipro and Natalie loved how mellow I was. The side effects were so subtle that I didn't notice that I was becoming complacent and letting things slide that needed to be attended to. I ran out of pills, and all of a sudden over the course of a week I started taking care of business again. Enough pills already.

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13 years does seem a bit long to be on the medication....

Also, there are newer antidepressants with fewer side effects; perhaps you should discuss them with your doctor?

On the other hand, if you're content with your life, who are we to judge? Just tell him "no sex, take it or leave it" and deal with the fall out.

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It might just be time to re-examine the relationship. It has to meet in the middle or it will most likely end up miserable for you both. I don't mean for it to come out as cut and dry as it sounds, but it is extremely important to be on the same page with each other. I wish you the best on this matter.

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i feel that to want a potential partner to take medication to enable a sexual relationship is quite self-centered

how can i explain to him that his insistence is pushing me away from him?

thank you.

ordinarily, it would be more self-centered to look elsewhere than to try to find a way to bring the two of you together. you just don't want to take it- that's completely your right. it doesn't make him selfish.

he just wants to be with you. i think bellsy is right of course, this might be the time to reexamine, but do so fairly if possible, even if it means moving on.

this isn't to say he should insist too much. there's a point where he should realize it's not what you want, respect it, and base his next actions on it. i can't tell from what you wrote exactly where the two of you are now, but i think you both care, and you'll both know what to do.

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