Hi EileenM and all,
Of course there is hope, it's all around us.
For a while, I was very discouraged, but this year my parents celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary. Being part of that celebration helped me realize "what it's all about".
While life is never easy, their commitment to each other has never hesitated. I know, for a fact, that there were moments when they didn't like each other very much, but the love has always been there.
Seeing the friends and family that came to celebrate this event, helped me to see that it's all about the people in our lives who have been there through thick and thin. Those people who we love, and will do anything for and will do anything for us, are the anchors in our crazy lives.
It's unfortunate that society has taken a "selfish" bent. For a while now we've all been told that it's "all about me" and "how can I be happier" or "get what I want",...not that you shouldn't be happy, but one of the prerequisites for love is putting others before yourself.
Relishing in the joy of making someone else happy, and sharing in the burdens that weigh on another's heart are the rewards of love, and it does take work to earn those rewards.
Love means putting all of your faith in another person, that's quite a risk; if you want to win the big prize, you have to place a sizeable bet. I think that is a scary thing for most of us, that's why it is so precious, and difficult to find.
I think that one of the keys to a happy life is surrounding ourselves with wonderful people. There aren't many people that I meet and just don't like, but there are even fewer that I meet and decide to get closer to. A group of great friends, who love each other, always attracts more of the same and that's probably the best way to meet a quality, potential partner.
Love and Luck!
Jerry