Lenia--
Job-hunting is stressful and this is probably not the ideal time to try to solve your problem of a sexless marriage.
I did some reading on bariatric surgery and impotence is not a common complication. I am not a sex therapist--or a trained therapist of any sort--but I have to ask does your husband have erections first thing in the morning because of a full bladder? If not, his sex drive is probably quite low.
Ask his doctor or your doctor or someone who would know.
Quote:I just want to understand if I am being unreasonable about the hole thing and letting my ego get the best of me or should I trust my gut feeling that tells me there is more to it that a sudden change in taste and a diet.
If your husband is spending every evening with you cuddling and talking, he's probably not having an affair. Assume that he's just lost interest in sex--with you or with anyone.
Sex is a normal, healthy part of marriage and you are certainly entitled to feel deprived of physical love. You are the only person to decide whether half a loaf is worth hanging on to your marriage.
As for your weight...here again, you are the only person who can decide whether to invest energy in losing weight. This is a decision you have to make about your body.
When he comes home with calorie rich goodies, he's certainly being an enabler and sabotaging any sort of diet plans you might have.
I repeat, marriage counseling seems like a good idea to me. If he doesn't want to go, go yourself. You're weighing some very heavy, important issues here and you deserve a good sounding board to help you find answers you can live with.
Hold your dominion.