Well, an update. I finally got in contact with my BF today, just kinda rang his number to see if he'd put his phone on charge (it's been out of battery for over a week
) and he answered and I was like *shock* so I kinda chatted a bit.
Asked if he wanted me to go over there, because I haven't seen him for a few days now... and he said no, because it's his brother's birthday and they MIGHT be going out for a meal... (I obviously wasn't invited, although I know his family quite well) Oh well, I can get over that. So I said "Okay, when am I going to see you next then?" and he replied with "Uhhhh..... I don't know... I might be doing something this weekend, maybe, I'll let you know.." So I'm like... "Do you just not like spending time with me anymore?" and he's like "Uhhhh, I just think we've been spending too much time together, you're ruling my life etc etc" so I'm like... Oh, so you're not busy, you just don't want to see me..
So I'm silent for a bit, and he goes "You still there?" and I'm like "Yah." and he's like "I'm going to go now." so I'm like... f*ck this sh*t! Put the phone down... Rang him when I got home to ask what exactly he meant. And he did his usual "Urrrrr, I just think you're taking over my life, yadda yadda." and I'm like "Wait, you sit at home and do NOTHING. and when you're over here, I'm...stopping you....from doing that??" so he goes "I can't be bothered with this. Don't call again."
WHAT???!! I mean, I'm just trying to converse with him to find out exactly what he meant.. And he puts the phone down on me. With THAT ^ "Don't call again." I'm his damn GF, he said something hurtful and then I try to communicate and he says that? I mean... Jeez, way to hurt a girl..
Right, so anyway, I ring him back and tell him it was hurtful and I just want to know what he meant.. So he whinges a bit and says he'll ring tomorrow...
Basically, I don't get it. I don't FORCE him to come over to my house... In the past 6 or 7 weeks I've been and stayed at his house about 3 nights, 2 in a row and 1 single. It's not like I'm forcing myself on him, turning up uninvited and staying all the time.
We basically used to spend 24/7 together, then I got a job, and this is how it's been. I've rarely been over there and he's been over here, quite a lot, but only in the evenings sometimes and then gone home in the mornings.. Last week he stayed about 3 nights, 2 mornings of which he made the decision to stay asleep in my bed til late... So, I'm apparently making him come over and stay? He wasn't complaining... Not until he couldn't get thee sex. Then he prefers to spend time with his friends and basically ignores me.
ARGH! I am just so pissed off. He's basically made me feel like I've done something wrong over the past ages (he does that frequently, though I'm not sure he realises he does it) and then he blames me for stopping him from doing other things in his life?? I don't even know. I work almost every day, so it's not as if we see eachother most of the day almost every day....