@MACCERS15,
The emotions you describe are fine. You have every right to expect what you expect in a relationship....just as she has every right to what she wants from a relationship...
...the question you are asking is about compatibility - are her values compatible with yours? In that area, it would seem not.
...the next question is, how big a deal is it to you? Is it a deal breaker? And by that I don't mean 'if she changes her behaviour, is it a deal breaker (because the answer is obviously 'no').
You can ask her to change her behaviour, but you don't have any right to force her to change her behaviour. And based on her behaviour, you can make decisions about whether or not you want to be with her (ie. you can stand up for your own values, respect your own emotions, etc - which you have every right to do)
You can't control another person, but you can control, and respect yourself, your emotions, and your relationship needs.