Is my girlfriend cheating on me

We really can't know much (if at all) better than you can. As for the appearance, aroma, etc. of her vagina, there are any number of things that could cause changes, including a yeast infection.

Be that as it may, maybe it's time to sit down and have a heart to heart. Again. And don't be so damned vague about it. I don't mean to blurt out, "Are you cheating on me?" I mean more like, "I feel we're growing apart. I'm concerned about what might be happening to us. Is there something I did? Can it be fixed?"

I suggest asking such things because you'll be covered. If she really is screwing this guy, then you've made it rather clear that you're a person she's hurting. Will that make her stop? I can't say as I wouldn't know her. But most people who care, or at least used to, will want to take steps to stop hurting you, even if that means letting you go. If she isn't doing anything with him, then she'll work with you on whatever the issue is.

I'm kind of curious about this work arrangement. A coed sauna isn't common here in the US, at least not where people expose themselves or are in danger of doing so even by accident. I take it she (or he) has a supervisor and this incident wasn't reported to them. It's weird that she's suddenly all right with it, but that does not necessarily mean she's doing anything with this other guy's penis, other than having seen it on one occasion.

Question: if she is cheating? What will you do? How do you see it all unfolding? If you no longer trust her, it may not matter so much whether she really is doing the horizontal tango with him. If you don't care anymore, then perhaps your move is to let her go. And for none of this side stuff to matter one whit.

Hello Jesper. I have tried talking to my girlfriend and looks like things will end.

I did as you suggested and we talked, after a short chat of me telling her my feelings, she admitted That she needed to finish the relationship as things have happened, I asked her to be totally honest which she then told me a few things.

Apparently he had gained her trust to the point where she went to his house for a drink, a little while in after a couple drinks he kissed her leaving her speechless and froze. He did it again but she again froze but he then started to kiss her neck etc and before she knew it, had her skirt off, she then said she felt frozen but said she couldn't but he carried on telling she wanted to and carried on undressing her.

She admitted to me she was flattered by him but didn't want to but she couldn't move, she said she was telling him it wasn't a good idea and thought he should stop but he didn't.

To cut this short, he started having sex with her and after a couple minutes she responded back and went with. After he finished he told her to keep coming back to his each night but she said for 2 nights she went home thinking about what happened but on the 3rd night she went back to his and she let him have sex with her again but because she wanted to.
I asked her was it really that good that she went back but she was quiet and closed her eyes. I asked her couple more times and she then said yes.
I asked her about the night with me after those 2 weeks, she said he knew she was going to see me so he wanted to remind her of him so they ended up having sex.
Then she admitted that she knew it would r be the same with me, I asked her what she meant, she said he was a lot bigger both ways so she wouldn't enjoy it with me.
I asked why she let me have sex which she replied so I would ask as she couldn't bring herself to say without me asking and she knew I wouldn't just ask her outright.

We are going to talk again, thought I would let you know.
Could you let me know your thoughts please

My thoughts are that I'm wondering why this isn't crystal clear to you. She's had sex with another guy at least 3 times that you know about. She has willingly returned to him (BTW, I don't believe for one second that she didn't think she could say no, and tell him to get lost. I also don't think she went to his home without thinking it was possible. If she didn't think that, then she's either naive or stupid). She's told you that she prefers sex with him.

What part of she wants to **** someone else are you not getting??

I am sorry to be harsh but, seriously? How is this not obvious to you?

I talked to her this morning.a couple on here are graphic so I apologise.

I asked about going to his why she really thought she was going to which she replied that she had trusted him and although the things he said in the past couple months made her worry at the time, going to his for coffee in the evening showed him she trusted him.

She told me which I thought was cheeky that on a couple of occassions after she saw him in the sauna that when me and her we're having sex that when I questioned her about seeing it, was she impressed and did she think about it, apparently that got her thinking about it when she was at his that night, so I said are you blaming me for fantasising during sex to make it nice for her, she said she never thought about bigger guys before so I should never have mentioned it. I thought that was bad of her.

I asked why she wore a skirt and she said it was what she wore to work that day to the regional meeting and didn't want to change.

I asked why she froze when he started kissing her and removing her skirt and underwear instead of pushing him away and telling him to leave you alone, she said to start with she was shocked so couldn't respond but then when he started kissing her again and touching her she felt powerless and said she didn't know why but maybe her having a drink and feeling horny at the time may have contributed.

So I asked her about why she didn't push him awayw when she felt him push his cock against her, she said she felt overwhelmed and felt guilty for allowing herself to get in that position.

I asked about was he wearing a condom, she said no.

I asked her about why she gave in and stopped resisting, she said she only verbally resisted. But after about 10 minutes or so the pain due to his width died down and it felt better and enjoyable so she gave in as at that moment she admitted she just wanted sex with him.

She then admitted she only told me yesterday a few things as she felt on the spot, but will answer questions I had today but not after.

I asked her how many times in those 2 week she saw him and she said the 3rd day after that till the 14th day.

I asked a stupid question then and said so him being bigger was better, she just looked at me and said, really, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that one out, he's 8 inches long and 7 1/2 around, of course it was going to feel better.

I said how did you know that and he measured it I front of her.

The last thing I will say today is I believe she trusted him about only being a drink and the fact she went in a skirt meant she felt comfortable around him.
Im not sure how much I believe why she might feel worried to the point of freezing still and feeling not able to push him away.
I do believe that she never thought about big cocks until I started fantasising with her during sex but I believe her that she didn't respond to him until she got used to him.

Thank you again for replying and being honest, I don't mind people being honest even in a heated way if it's honest.

The best thing I can tell you is, your initial question was: is my girlfriend cheating on me?

The answer is yes.

Decide what that means to you, and whether it matters. Personally, I wouldn't be talking about this. I'd be getting back anything I'd loaned her and anything where I really needed it back (e. g. an heirloom or my own possessions, as in if you have clothes in a drawer at her place), then left and never looked back, deleting all contact info, tossing pictures and gifts and keepsakes and changing Facebook status. You need not do any of that, of course, but that would be my advice. She has no respect for either you or herself.

So why hang around and even ask for an explanation?

It is over and I accept that. I was simply speaking advice from others and appreciate the time you took to reply.
I won't get to talk any more to her and I have all my belongings.
I know she doesn't want the relationship anymore and certainly wouldn't enjoy the sex either. It is done and I guess just talking to others help but if your not happy to message then I understand

Oh, it's okay. I've just got schoolwork to do.

Hang in there. It sucks but at least you're no longer in doubt, and now have a chance to work on moving on with your life. Better things are over the next hill.

Sorry you had to go thru this. It must be very humiliating that your GF thinks men should be judged by the size of their penis. She's in for a rude awakening.

In the meantime, learn all you can about pleasing a woman.

It's not the size of the wand, it's the magician behind it.

When someone is avoiding you it is the first step towards making a distance. When a woman has another option for company I think its your fault.

I do think back to if it was my fault but I tried communicating with her several times , but just not sure how I would have caused it