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Sounds like he's not interested in making it public that he's got a commitment to you.

I got news for him. Even if you two break up (and he certainly seems to want that, from the information given), you still have a kid together. That part doesn't go away. If he cares at all about his child, he'll need to have a cordial relationship with you. It need not be love, but it needs to be enough to make certain that your child together has a roof over his head, shoes on his feet, etc.

Cimber, your just had a baby with a very huge jerk.

His brother is also a huge jerk. If i know that one of my brothers is denying a child i would made him act like a man.

I belive that a child can not bound a man to a woman. That is a foolish concept many people have. There is no guarantee that he will stay with you even after having his baby. But he at least should be accepting and responding to the consecuences of his acts. Babies are not miracles, they are people. He seems to be acting like it wasn´t a big deal and behaving like the foolish teenager he still is.

His life will never be the same after having a child, it is not the time for him to be flirting and teasing other women. He should focus on how he will respond to your mutual responsability If he does not wants to stay with you theres nothing you can do. It can even be the biggest mistake of your life. You should worry for the human being that is now our responsability.

That girl is acting appropiatedly. She is obviously rejecting his advances. He is not a good man for neither of you.

My best friend´s brother is a huge jerk too. He has a 14 year old daugther with his wife. Never divorced, just separated and had a child with another woman. Today this baby girl is 3 years old. But he returned to his wife for a couple of months and had another baby. Now he is separated again of his wife and is living with another woman. This kind of manboys are toxic.

Be very carefull. If he is not trustable you will be better without him. Just be sure to make him give your child his last name so you can legaly fight for money from this man to help you raise your son in case he runs away.

I think you should have at least several more children by this jerk. Maybe even knock a few teeth out for you and teach your sons how to treat women for at least another generation. You need some tough love. You need to make tracks.

Absolutely.

And this is why you don't make babies with boyfriends, but rather with husbands who have already committed fully to the relationship.

And before anyone points out that husbands can be jerks also, I am well aware of that. But at least a husband has demonstrated a level of commitment that a boyfriend has not.

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the view from the back of my property looking east toward the orchards

Having a child together doesn't guarantee anything. Get out. Build yourself up and realize this person doesn't have your best interest at heart. Hurts....but better than giving him more of your precious years. Enjoy your child...but build a life for yourself. Don't indulge in self- pity and victimization....that's leads nowhere but self-destruction. You can be a winner.