@cbjohnson7474,
cbjohnson7474 wrote:
Here is my issue. 5 years ago I was incredibly stupid and left the love of my life because I allowed other people to put "stupid and untrue" idea's about her in my head. I was told by a friend that my girl friend was cheating on me, and it was so convincing, that I decided to leave the relationship by starting one with the woman that I am married to now. Don't get me wrong, I do love me wife, and in the beginning, things were great. Over the years, the relationship has dwindled down to nothing despite me trying everything that I could to get keep the marriage strong. Well, last week, my ex (the one I never should have dumped in the first place) contacted me and her current marriage is kinda sucking too. We have talked on the phone, and even met for lunch. The wierd thing is, it was like we have never been separated for that 5 years. Everything is still the same, our connection hasn't faded and I know in my heart that I am still madly in love with her. She still loves me to. What do I do? Do I leave an unhappy but stable life to attempt to rebuild a life with her? Do I stay with my wife, risk being unhappy, and let my true love move out of my life again? Any suggestions? This really sucks.
To me, I could be wrong. But I get the feeling that something is missing from this story. Some things don't add up. For one, have you even asked if the allegations about her cheating on you were true or not? It seems you are in a position to actually find that out. The other aspect is, like Punkey brought up is your friends. All of your friends were wrong?
I guess if it was only one or two friends but how many were claiming they new she was up to something? And what exactly was their convincing evidence? That just seems weird that you never seemed to have cleared the air, you just sounded like you reacted to your friends data as facts. That doesn't sound very smart to me.
Not only that but listen to yourself. You are willing to end things with your wife? Because things are not going all that great to get back together with a person who your friends convinced you that she was cheating on you. How easy is it to convince you of something? If I tell you I met some aliens from outer space yesterday are you convinced? Because I get the impression from how you write up your problem that, this is all it takes.
I say there is probably something wrong with you personally, not your wife or this ex girl friend.
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