She turned him down

If she doesn't want to date him, she has every right to turn him down. If she thinks he was asking her to his church for the purposes of asking her out (or to set that up), then she is certainly within her rights to say no.

For his part, he may be feeling a bit rejected or at least foolish.

I don't think it's such a hot idea for your friend to be pursuing him for a friendship. It seems like she wants to be able to reject him romantically yet maintain a cordial friendship. She kind of wants to have it both ways (get close to me, but not too close, or I'll push you away again), and that nearly never works out.

She should allow the guy to have a little dignity (and herself, I might add) and keep away for a while.

One thing about rejecting people, even if it is wholly justified, is that they sometimes get angry at us. And there are times when they don't want to be our friends anymore. It's a part of growing up and maturing to be able to accept the fact that not everyone is going to love us.

This guy had strings attached to the friendship: Attend church with him.

She didn't so he wont have anything to do with him.

He sounds weird. She should be glad that she is not seeing him. He sounds like a controling person.

There is nothing wrong with turning down an invitation to church. It is an odd invitation anyway... church is something personal. But even so, there is nothing wrong with turning down an invitation to anything (except maybe the wedding or the funeral of the person who is inviting).

The guy is acting inappropriately. At this point she should turn him down in a way that is very clear and ask him to stop. I don't know if she wants to continue being nice, but there is no way to do this until he stops being so inconsiderate.

I wouldn't like it if someone was persistent in asking me to do anything with them if I'd already made it clear I wasn't interested in that activity.

I agree with Punky in that he sounds controlling. Either that or oblivious.

With as mentioned can be looked at in many different angles.

He may had been testing her to begin with. But there's no telling.

It shouldn't be stressed about so much. It's unnecessary.

Thanks, I will tell her that,besides, sh should focus on her studies and stopped bothering about his bruised ego.

Thanks, will pass your message across

Thanks

Thanks, you were helpful,

However, I think it has do to with the way she turned him down, because she told me, she didn't say NO directly, but made show she sounded disinterested while he was asking to come pick her up for church the next morning.she told him,she would call him next morning (Sunday morning).so he waited however she didn't call (she said she slept off) and still didn't show up at his church.

Well, that's pretty passive-aggressive.

She shouldn't do that.

So, she could apologize but then she'll need to lay her cards on the table.



It's not fun to have to say something like that, but it's honest and it makes it clear to him that it is never going to happen between them.

She will probably never be friends with him again, but that's not looking so good now, anyway. At least by saying something like this, she can clear her own conscience.

And the next time some guy she is not attracted to comes sniffing around and is persistent in asking her out - and she is completely uninterested - she needs to speak up and kindly refuse his offer, rather than accepting it and just not showing up.

She may naturally be a rude person. You may be her. Who knows.

John 3:16

Authorized (King James) Version (AKJV)
16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

how swift you are into jumping into conclusion.

You feel comfortable judging people on a faceless forum. Someone you have never met before. If you are really that knowledgeable about the bible like you painting yourself to be, how come you skipped (matt 7vs1-5).Thanks for your input anyways