I do believe she hates spending time with these pigs but its something she has to do in order to make money from them, something
If she is/was a half way decent stripper she has to (or had to ) enjoy doing so, and enjoy the attention received from men, and the sense of power derived from doing so.
Stripping inevitably warps ones view of the world. Women treat you like a slut, and men treat you like you're easy and you want it. The stripper sees how easy it is to manipulate males using her sexuality. The stripper gets every pickup line, and every type of guy hitting on her, until most bore her and so she only gets excited by the best / most different / most manly / funniest ones.
If your wife is very sexual, loves attention, and is a stripper - you've every reason to be worried, but why did you marry her in the first place (or agree to her becoming one, if you were already married)?
It does seem that your wife believes she can walk all over you.
As a personal observation, I've noticed that anything that is repressed by a person, tends to come out when they are drunk. If your wife is very abusive to you when she's drunk, she's harboring a lot of anger (either towards herself, you, or everyone...or any combination thereof)
As for how this affects you - Do you know what you want? Are you worthy of receiving what you want? (that's not a condescending question - that's asking if you believe, in your head, if you are worthy of such).
Understand that our minds want congruency. In otherwords if you act one way, while believing a different way - your mind will work to make the contradictor action/belief meet (usually by trying to supress the old belief by attempting to modify or change the old belief). That can leave a tangle of repressed and unresolved emotions. Note : This paragraph applies to everyones lives, but in this case, most especially to your wife's stripping, and to your settling for thigns you don't like. The resultant state of your mind is something you are totally self responsible for.
It's why being true to yourself is both the hardest (at first), and the best course course (because in the long run, you get the life you want, not the life you got lumped with).