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Thu 31 May, 2007 06:40 pm
I've been pondering asking this for a while and, as the obsession hasn't died, I've decided to plunge....
This story will only make sense to those of you who know our history but I can elaborate if needed.....
Okay:
Mo suddenly has become obsessed with a certain girl at school to the point where he is conniving ways to walk her home and get into her house. Let's call her "Lilly".
The interesting thing is that Mo's obsession developed at the exact week that CPS was called on Lilly's mom and Lilly was taken from home and is now living with her dad.
I know all of this because I have become friendly with Lilly's grandma who picks her up from school each day.
I never said anything, not a word, to Mo about what was going on with Lilly. I didn't even know that he had ever noticed Lilly or put her in the friend category. I found out about the crush when I found a love note he had written to her (but not yet delivered) in his backpack. He told me that he gave Lilly a big hug and told her that he loved her and they've been in love ever since.
So.......
I'm just wondering if maybe Mo recognized some connection -- the losing a mom thing -- or maybe this is typical kid stuff and the timing is a coincidence -- or what?
Thank you for your thoughts!
from my readings mo seems to be a very intuitive child, he may very well be responding to somebody in a circumstance he can relate to, he may even be consciously or not getting a different take on his own situation through her experience
given all that
childhood crushes are the strangest things and sometimes defy any logical explanations
i look back on girls i had crushes on, and all but one make me shake my head in disbelief
I'd be willing to bet that he recognizes something in her. And I doubt he understands this on the surface, but it seems likely to me that he picked up on her distress or felt they had something in common or wanted to make her feel better. Sweet Mo.
I agree with djjd. I do think that kids are very intuitive, not necessarily anything mystical or anything but a skill they have. Like how that recent study showed that babies can figure out what language someone is speaking just by watching their mouths.
That said, (also agreeing with djjd), I've written here about sozlet's Major Crush. She wrote him love notes and generally obsessed about him for a while. Things have settled down a bit -- he likes her a lot too but is apparently in love with yet another girl (they're all kindergarteners!), and she has accepted that and is apparently genuinely friends with both (the crush and the crush's crush who reciprocates the crush's crush by the way... following?)
This is a girl who has always been friends with boys and I totally didn't get why she would come up with this crush business, but it was very real, and directed at just this one boy. (He's a sweetheart anyway.)
Mo's definitely at a good age for some good crushing/obsessing.
He could be picking something up - they might have even talked about it (great age for surprisingly huge secrets shared by kids) - or he might just be having one of a series of crushes he's going to have.
Great point about talking about it. I typed and erased a big secret that was shared between the kids referred to above because I promised sozlet (when she told ME) that I'd keep it secret.
Yeah, young crushes. I still remember my first boyfriend - Mark. We were in first grade. This is back in the day when kids were allowed to walk home from school unescorted. Mark would walk me to a certain corner where we had to part ways. He gave me a Batman ring. I raved about him constantly.
One day my mom picked me up from school and we passed Mark on the street where he made faces and did a funny dance for us. I was horrified.
Lilly's dad picked her up from school today and I introduced myself and when Mo came out I introduced him.
Mo made faces and did a funny dance for them.
Some things never change.
Maybe that's what sparked me to start this thread today.
For a long time he raved and held hands with The Divine Ms. M. I thought that crush was still on. I was really taken by surprise to learn that Lilly was the new thing. The timing was just ....... so ..... odd.
... but good.
Funny.
When I was a lad I enjoyed walking girls home but it wasn't their houses I was trying to get into...
NickFun wrote:When I was a lad I enjoyed walking girls home but it wasn't their houses I was trying to get into...
Mo's a wee lad yet Nick. Give him time. His A2k uncles will see him right. :wink:
boomer do stop worrying. yes I know its your job and you do it way better than many, but I think you tend to over anylise.
It could be a regular crush - have nothing to do with anything - just a plain old crush.
My younger brother had his first crush in nursery school (pre-kindergarten in India). He brought home to our mother, the 'fee-book' (ledger of school tuition accounts) of this one girl and wanted her to pay his crush's school fee.
I know, dadpad. I'm horrible.
I never paid much attention to little kids and I'm at an advanced age for learning about them. They baffle me. They're nut jobs. Sometimes I feel like a scientist observing a foreign culture.
Where was your brother when I was in college, Heatwave?
You over anylise and I cant spell, but you are NOT horrible.
If the girl's grandmother picks her up from school, how could Mo walk her home?
On foot.
Grandma lives just up the street from me so Mo thinks that's where Lilly lives and he can't understand why she can't come over and play on the weekends.
I think Lilly isn't really in our school's district but fudged it by using Grandma's address.
One other thing I thought of for this situation -- could be that Lilly knew about Mo's story and was the one who sought him out, and he responded.
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