Dove bars

I think that as we get older, there is a wariness about the infirmities of old age. When we see people around us failing, it is not a stretch to believe that we may be next.

Memory is one of those things. We hear stories, or have known people who have suffered from dementia, and fear that someday we may be faced with it. When we were younger, and we forget, we can always say that we forgot because we had more important things on our minds. As retirees, our ability to multitask weakens, and we forget.

I remember taking a graduate course in psychology. The professor was a woman of about 60. One of the students asked her if I.Q. diminishes with age. She answered that it is not the IQ that changes, but our ability to retain new information. She pulled out a little pad from the pocket of her skirt, and told the class that if she did not write things down, she would be forgetting stuff all the time.

Then again, maybe the Lady Diane didn't want you to get mad at her. You could be pissed if you thought that she did not care enough to buy you the ice cream, but you can't take issue will a poor old lady whose memory is failing! :wink:


BTW, speaking of Dove. I had gotten a flyer from one of those health magazines that send out "teasers" so they can get you to subscribe. They talked about a certain brand of dark chocolate that has a large amount of flavanols, but naturally, they did not mention the brand.

This chocolate was supposed to provide improved blood vessel function. Well, after a little Googling, I found out that it was Dove. I am going to buy myself a bag of Dove dark chocolate squares, for medicinal purposes, of course!

http://pub.ucsf.edu/today/news.php?news_id=200211205

dys :
lucky you ! if you had asked me to bring a "dove" bar , this is what i would have brought you




of course , not all would be lost 'cause the delivery would have been made by the "dove girls" !
they are the real dove girls - it's not just some gimmick - i wouldn't pull a stunt on you - promise !



so whatever dove bar comes your way : ENJOY IT !
hbg

I'll answer you seriously.

Every woman on my mother's side of the family died with dementia of some sort, my mother with rampant alzheiimer's. Thinking how many grand aunts died at Metropolitan whatever in Boston, each gaga. And at least one man, thinking, two. I don't know my father's family of yore, but he was transferred from a psychiatric facility to an ICU before he died.

My father warned me about my mother when she was a year older than I am now. He died three years younger than I am now.

I see patterns in myself like I saw with her.



Diane has her own reasons for both fears and noticing changes.

The noticings aren't ever silly, in our cases.

For those for whom such fears are basically silly, that is a good thing, snap out of it. For those for whom it is not silly, don't just toss it off.


I know, Dys, how much you know about brain challenges.
I know you are supportive.

On how I might know my mother had alzheimer's before they even had diagnostics on it and sans autopsy, that is a word I know now, sometime later. Wandering is a classic aspect of it. My mother walked from west LA to LAX airport, from which they called me, and to Rampart Street Division LAPD. My name was in her purse.

One wonders why it took me twice to act, but believe me, I was frantic. Thus, conservatorship.

But back then, alzheimer's wasn't a word I ever heard, even though I worked at a med center and talked with a lot of mds about the circumstances.


Not to natter, just that a certain wariness isn't piffle.

In childhood, my Mom called me "the absent-minded professor." How will I know if I have alzheimers, if I already don't remember?

There is a difference from the ordinary forgetting. I too have been a key loser for decades. I see it as a sign of honor...


eh, listen to me or not.

I tend to "forget" a lot of things when shopping for loved ones, especially those things that aren't good for them to be eating.

It's much easier and less emotional to just "forget" rather then argue the pros and cons of it with them.

Of course, I often "forgot" what all was not good to be eating and bought it for the both of us!

So, butryflynet, in agreement, forgetting has many aspects.

BBB
My memory differences appear to be mostly that it takes more time for the word or name I'm trying to remember to work it's way up from wherever it is stored in my brain.

When I was younger, I was extremely fast on the memory response and would have made a good Jeopardy contestant. But now I'm much too slow on the response as I age.

I've been a member of an osteoporosis drug testing program for three years. At least once a year I'm tested for good brain function including memory retention. This year, I showed a very slight decline in being able to repeat long lists of words and numbers. I guess there's still hope for me as I turn 78 in July.

BBB

bbb wrote :



i don't think you have much to worry about on the "memory" score :wink:

i'm trying hard to catch up with you but you keep beating me on the "curves of life" !
hbg

I love Dove dark chocolate but cannot find it here in Canada. I have been able to find the caramel filled kind but want the healthy stuff (so I can justify both purchase and consumption )! On our infrequent trips to the states we always come home with Dove dark chocolate.

tai chi :

have you tried



mrs h likes it but prefers the 70% "orange" kind - often at shoppers' drugmarket at 2/$5
personally hardly ever eat chocolate - except a small piece of chocolate-truffel torte .
hbg

Tai Chi - if you've got one of the big Shoppers Drug Marts near you, check it for dark Dove chocolate as well as other premium chocolates.

darker than dark ... "Dark Excellence Lindt 99%" also at shoppers'

Thanks ehBeth and hamburger. I have tried cote d'or and will look for Dove dark at Shopper's (maybe it's a big city thing). Mostly I'm willing to wait and look for what I want so I won't settle for what isn't good for me...

Kingston's a big city now ?



:wink:

I can accept growing old and a bit creaky. I find it much harder to accept that my years are making me more vulnerable.

I think if you're used to planning your life and being in charge of your destiny that memory lapses are more than simply forgetting a fact. They are a possible sign of doom.

Control Freaks frequently assume the worst.

[Fellow Control Freak here...] I can accept forgetting the occasional word -- that seems normal to me -- but I have lately been using the wrong word (it usually starts with the same letter). As I am still "relatively" young [50] it concerns me a bit, although I tell myself I have a lot on my mind.