jmparrack--
Welcome to A2K.
Quote:I don't want them to know the complete truth becuse I'm afraid of what they'll think of me. But, I don't want to lie either. I want to be kind, but vague. Please help!!!
I am not a psychologist or a psychiatrist, but I'd guess your Bipolar Disorder Diagnosis humiliates you. You're rational enough to know you can't control your brain chemistry without help, but you're anxious to maintain "control" over your life (and humiliation) by controling what other people know about your dis-ease.
As long as you're humiliated and ashamed about your disorder, you're never going to accept your disorder as a part of yourself. Right now, your "normal" life includes an out-of-control BiPolar disorder and accepting this is part of the cure.
What other people think isn't really important. Are you afraid of being socially isolated? Pelted with stones? Laughed at?
Most people in this day and age accept mental illness as a fact of life--and the people who don't aren't particularly well-informed or compassionate people.
Your family certainly deserves the truth. I assume your wife knows. You your children are preteens? Tell them that the doctor feels you need to stay home from work for awhile. As they grow older, they'll want more information and they will be entitled to more information.
Their big adjustment is probably going to be financial rather than emotional. Save your energy for the financial explanations and economies--don't fritter it on elaborate, inaccurate explanations.
Close friends, like close family, deserve the truth. Acquaintances need only the information that your doctor recomends you have a rest. As for your soon-to-be former co-workers, simply tell them that you're going out on disability and it is much too complicated to discuss at the moment.
Good luck.