I can see how, in a foster setting, that kind of a rule would almost make perfect sense.
The child in the home is not guaranteed to be there long enough to benefit emotionally, and psychologically from that kind of an attachment.
They move so much, that if they are given an attachment such as that, it could almost be more damage to them in the long run.
But, on the human/mother side- I think ALL children should be allowed to sleep with parents or parental FIGURES when they are scared, or uncomfortable. This is one of the places where the feeling of safety and security come from.
I am not saying they should sleep in the parents bed all their lives, but that window of safety should always be open to them .
I am not sure how much I agree with the idea that a kiddo who sleeps with their parents is subjected to sleeping problems later on in life..
simply because
how many adults you know in your life
right now who cant sleep with out their parents??
We adapt as we need to
In the 60's and 70's, this kind of research and parenting outline was not widely available..
yet we are products of that and can attest to being able to sleep fine.
Our parents did not always have separate rooms, or even separate beds for us to sleep in.
Breast feeding was still a number one way to feed kiddos and the easiest way for mama to get some sleep at night and still feed her child was to have them close.
I do believe there needs to be rules in place for a child who wants to sleep with parents all the time.
But I think the rules need to come MORE from a personal space lesson then a discipline lesson.
Meaning-
This is mom's room/bed.
This is kiddos bed.
We can share at times, but I like MY stuff , just like you enjoy YOUR stuff..
rambling example.. I know..