Louise_R_Heller wrote:
Trying to follow here......
I looked up "transgendered woman" (this being Nikki's description of herself) I now got a question for Sturgis:
What if Nikki really WAS a "beefy middle aged man" prior to becoming a "transgendered woman"? If you were interested in him before this transformation, would you drop him after it??
For the sexual purposes, and any other physical intimacy...kissing, caressing...I would have to end the relationship. I would still have caring feelings for the person who had once been but to me once the sexual orientation has been changed from male to female I am not going to be interested. I can state this in a very clear and honest way as I do know of a person who is transgendered. As a male he was good looking, charming and I occasionally entertained the idea of a relationship. Fast forward about 15 years and he started the transgendering process. The interest left. About 4 years later the process was completed, the genitals had been altered, breast implants were in place, hormones were injected, etc. etc. and my sexual interest was gone. I still like the person and as a woman she is still charming and a delight to be around and I give her a hug when I see her. No interest though in anything beyond that, so if Nikki had been a beefy male, the answer is NO, I would not be interested in a relationship after a sex change. If the person is/was in the early phases of transgendering (clothing, hormones, etc.) I would also have no interest. The men I have interest in are masculine, they do not wear womens clothing (at least I don't think they do). These facts are also more proof to me of my sexuality being 100% homosexual without even the twinges of heterosexuality trying to creep in.
So, the final answer is that if Nikki had been a beefy male before, and I had had an interest or even a relationship of the sexual nature with Nikki as a male, it would have ended at the time when the transgendering began. This is not to say that any friendship would end because clearly the heart and soul of Nikki has not changed so why would a friendship.