@DeeCue,
What, exactly, were you planning to say to your girlfriend? Do you want to do this action to your gf and you're not sure she'll like the idea? Did you want to say you enjoyed someone being physically hurt to satisfy some kink of yours?
Does your gf know that Tillie gets randomly hit by a close friend? Do you think this action is over the top? If this were a random couple you didn't know, would you still be turned on by it? Do you feel if it were a man doing the hitting, it wouldn't be ok?
What if the next time you see Tillie she has a black eye, or a broken nose or even her arm in a cast? Will that be sexually exciting enough for you?
What will it take for you to know this isn't acceptable?