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intrigued by an older guy

 
 
Reply Sun 3 May, 2020 09:12 am
Hello, I know the situation might seem a little weird, but I wanted an opinion because for some reason can't stop thinking about it
I'm 24 years old, last year I graduated law school, and I've never been attracted to older guys-the maxmum age gap I've had in a relationship is 3-4 years. But recently, maybe because I'm bored and spent much more time on SN during quarantine or something, but I've started to notice a guy much older than me( one of his sons is in university, if that says something Very Happy ) , he's a very famous lawyer in my (small) country, he participates actively in actions against the government, appears a lot on TV interviews and I started following him on facebook and his blog. At first, I read his publications because they're very intelligent and I appreciate people who express their opinion without fear.But lately I've started to notice his looks also because he looks handsome for his age. So I got to thinking that I wouldreally like to meet him in person, even just to talk ,because there's a lot I could learn especially since we work in the same field.. I wouldn't mind doing something physical (I mentioned he's handsome Very Happy) but then again, realistically speaking , normal relationship is out of the table for a lot of reasons (he's divorced, not married ,but still) .
So I was wondering -do you think I should maybe send a message, just to express that I'm impressed with his work etc and see how it goes and whether he would be even slightly interested in meeting in person? Or even this idea is stupid and I should just try to concentrate on other things ? I would appreciate an honest opinion.
Best regards
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chai2
 
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Reply Sun 3 May, 2020 09:55 am
If you can handle keeping it to purely physical, use birth control and protection from STD's, It's your business who you have sex with.

Just be aware he has several perceived and actual positions of power and authority over you, so it could be easy to fall under/into his agenda.

However, if you just want to have sex privately between the 2 of you without telling anyone, and move on, fine.

Based though that you're already making a thing about it on a public forum, I don't think that's going to happen.
For you, it sounds like a drama in the making.

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Ragman
 
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Reply Sun 3 May, 2020 10:06 am
@fierainquieta95,
Thinking about such a fantasy is a healthy expression. However, meeting somebody in person should be fueled by the realization that you’re on equal footing. That way you might enjoy a decent outcome. You’re not on an equal footing here. Why not find someone you might have a chance of developing some sort of real relationship rather than avoiding it by chasing a fantasy.
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Sun 3 May, 2020 12:09 pm
@fierainquieta95,
Nothing wrong with having a crush, and not really a surprise during these difficult times.

Send a message if you want. Be aware it may not lead anywhere. Be aware that there could be professional consequences for you as you begin your career.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Sun 3 May, 2020 01:51 pm
@fierainquieta95,
Find a younger version of your crush.
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Leadfoot
 
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Reply Mon 4 May, 2020 07:55 am
@fierainquieta95,
Might be worth it.
The down side is meeting your (attractive) hero and finding he has feet of clay.
It is also the up side, a valuable lesson.

I’m thinking of my daughter at twenty four who did the same.
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