I know 7 yrs is a long time to carry that around. She did a number on him with with turning up pregnant when she was supposedly on the pill (I do understand sometimes it happens anyway). She lied to him throughout the marriage and then filed for divorce, got a big chuck of money out of it, and tried to get his retirement after just being married a few years.
I know him very well. We have been very close. I've spent time with his family and child. I in no way think he's seeing or talking to anyone else. He even gave me the pass code to his phone which I have never used and won't. I do respect his privacy. He's is very attentive when with me and doesn't play around on it or anything. If he gets a call it's his family.
He's text me last night and was down. I told him I was living the dream too - NOT! Told him at least I was for awhile. He said he did too. Told him I think we are both just miserable now. It's true.
So for the life of me I don't get why when he loves me and I love him, that he can't get over thinking I'm just going to hurt him. That's why I keep hanging in there because I'm hoping he will see I'm here for the long haul.
I'm not pushing him. I just hope after days or weeks of him being depressed without me that he will think......OK, this girl really does love me and she doesn't run away from problems. Then in my dream world we will be alright.
Am I crazy to think that way? Thank you again for offering advice.