Thank you for your response. It has been a while since I read it, I did not respond at the time. A lot has happened since then. I am leaning more towards being bi rather than lesbian. I did tell my husband about my desires, that was only fair since he has been faithful to me our entire marriage. He did not take it well at first. I still love and respect him, but I need to explore this side of my life. We decided to go to counseling to work through this together. It has been a month and things are still not resolved. Meanwhile, I have not pursued anything with any women, but still very much want to. I have hotties at the gym and work flirting with me. I do flirt back, but it is hard not to take things to the next level. So, I guess I am still in a holding pattern.