First time with woman

depends if you want to top her or you want her to top you. do you think she is a dyke or femme? if you are going to play up to her as a butch you should meet her packing (wearing a strap on under clothing) and dress boyish. if you are going to femme her dress dainty and conservative. when you romance her make flirty inquiries as to her sexual passions and limitations to determine how to play her. is your marriage going to remain undercover or shared? this will affect your game plan.

I have been in this situation but I was the other woman. The lady in question has met another woman prior to meeting me all was arranged for her to meet this woman, she went to the hotel room and the lady she was meeting was wearing a strap on , this was too much and my ex who was in your situation bolted as it was too much. We then met some time later and she told me this lady was pestering her and I had to then make out I had bought my exes phone, so be sure to be careful. You need to think about where do you go from here after you do have sex with a woman and what it will mean to you and your family, do you think you are a lesbian woman ? Will you leave hour husband if you find a woman and you both fall in love?. I only came out 6 years ago, I was single and I have 2 boys. When I met my partner the first thing I did was sit them down and talk to them, it wasn't easy but we made it through. Accepting it yourself that you are a lesbian is equally as challenging. But it's about being true to yourself and your family it's not just about sex as you will discover. Have you discussed your sexuality with your husband? How do you think he will take it? Or are you just testing the waters before you approach the subject?.

Thank you for your response. It has been a while since I read it, I did not respond at the time. A lot has happened since then. I am leaning more towards being bi rather than lesbian. I did tell my husband about my desires, that was only fair since he has been faithful to me our entire marriage. He did not take it well at first. I still love and respect him, but I need to explore this side of my life. We decided to go to counseling to work through this together. It has been a month and things are still not resolved. Meanwhile, I have not pursued anything with any women, but still very much want to. I have hotties at the gym and work flirting with me. I do flirt back, but it is hard not to take things to the next level. So, I guess I am still in a holding pattern.