have not been in this situation before... need help!

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Hi!

To make it easier the girl I'm dating is Kriss. The guy you are going to read about is Tobbe and the girl who hosted the party is Julia.

I have been dating this girl since the start of 2018. She is 17 and will be 18 in a few weeks, while I am 22 years old. All I ask for is help and not hate.

She invited me to a party, but I told her I would be late cause I had other things to do. So while I was doing my things she sends me a video on snapchat of her playing with tobbe's hair. For me that was not okay. Imagine If I wasn't there she could have slept with him or if not being intimate. She even said that she once slept with him at a party hosted by Julia. (She ment the party that was a while ago, not the party that was last night.) so clearly Julia had hosted a lot of parties.

Now when the party was over everyone went to bed and I slept besides Kriss. Kriss was stroking me by my arm, and wanted me often by her side. I did not make a move or take her clothes off it just got intimate. So in the morning she used her foot to push me aside which I take it as I was too close on her or that she didn't feel comfortable with me.

Here is what I'm thinking. She might test me of how far she can go before making me jealous. And are Tobbe still having sex with Kriss? Why are Kriss acting like that now when she was not like this before?

Also It could be just me overthinking because we're not sure if Tobbe and Kriss is still sleeping together and maybe them playing with each others hair is a friend thing. I won't jump to conclussion too fast.

One thing is for sure... I will not say sorry because then I come across as too insecure and that turns her off. Do you have any advice on what I could do?

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You don't need to start multiple threads with the same story.

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@chai2,

This was the only one lol?

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@Niveks,

lol no it isn't.

https://able2know.org/topic/483033-1#post-6736709

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@chai2,

Yeah exactly why do you care?

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@Niveks,

Try trusting her.

The relationship with Tobbe is over, she is with you now. Sure, she may still be friends with him, but no longer into him in terms of a physically intimate relationship. If you want to know, you'll have to ask her...of course that could cause her to kick you to the curb for not trusting her. None of us can know what she does or doesn't do when you aren't there.

Again, TRUST AND BELIEVE IN HER.

I hope things work out well for you.

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@Niveks,

Please ask me what a minor is doing at a party where everyone is sleeping over?

First off you should all break up. She is too young for an adult relationship and you, from the sounds of it are too immature for an adult relationship.

All of this shows the level of immaturity on both of you and you two should focus on growing up before you commit in an adult relationship.

"She might test me of how far she can go before making me jealous. And are Tobbe still having sex with Kriss? Why are Kriss acting like that now when she was not like this before? "

- She is 17 that is why is acting like this. She is not ready for an adult commitment - you do not test someone if you are in a true adult relationship.

"One thing is for sure... I will not say sorry because then I come across as too insecure and that turns her off. Do you have any advice on what I could do?"

- You will not say sorry - you are afraid of coming across as insecure - this shows your level of maturity. Someone that is mature will say sorry if they should and will not worry about how they come across other than being truthful.

Neither one of you are ready for this level of commitment.

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@Sturgis,

Finally someone who understands. Last time I took a quick glimpse on her phone and she haven't talk to Tobbe for a long time, but that doesn't matter cause they go to the same school. Also Tobbe is 18 and she is 17 so it would not make any sense for them to have sex. If they did they would break the law. She has teased me like the whole night and I think she is just testing me of how far she can go before I get jealous

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@Linkat,

Well since your opinion is for me to say sorry to her, then what do I say sorry for? Sorry for being intimate when we were sleeping besides each other? The thing with Tobbe is just me overthinking. She could not possible have sex with him because he is 18 and she is 17.

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@Niveks,

Sex between a 17 or 18 year old and a 22 year old is breaking the law.

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@chai2,

chai2 wrote:

lol no it isn't.

https://able2know.org/topic/483033-1#post-6736709

She’s right, the text in both posts is identical.

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@glitterbag,

Lol that is just what I wrote in Linkats answer.

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@glitterbag,

Yeah she's right, but different forums have different people. Some forums have a lot of people and some don't. I was thinking I could get answers here

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@Niveks,

Niveks wrote:

Well since your opinion is for me to say sorry to her, then what do I say sorry for? Sorry for being intimate when we were sleeping besides each other? The thing with Tobbe is just me overthinking. She could not possible have sex with him because he is 18 and she is 17.

Really?? It actually makes more sense for an 18 year old to have sex with a 17 year old; than a 22 year old having sex with a 17 year old.

You make no sense whatsoever.

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@Niveks,

Niveks wrote:

Lol that is just what I wrote in Linkats answer.

I think you mis-read glitter's note - she said sex between a 22 year old and minor is illegal - not in so many words. To be honest it depends on the state, but in general:

The federal law establishes the age of 12 as the minimum age of consent, while the age at which there are no restrictions for consensual sexual activities is 18 (sex with someone 12-18 is not illegal per se, but can still be open to prosecution under certain circumstances).

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@Linkat,

No wonder why she played with he's hair... But I trust her that there is not something between her and Tobbe

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@Niveks,

I think you are confused, you posted the same question twice on the same forum.
You posted on A2K and then on A2K......Its the same forum. The only difference is you changed the title of your question. All you have to do is post it once, what you did is cut in half the number of people who might respond.

I think you would be better off dating a women your own age. Seventeen year old girls should not be tied down to one boy, it's a time for personal growth.

By the way, there is no underage forum. There has to be other forums on the web that cater to men dating underage girls.

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@glitterbag,

Agree but I still regret not doing it with her (you know what I mean) the chances might not come back...

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@Niveks,

So she had sex with him but not with you.

And you're just being patient until you get laid.

Then what?

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@Niveks,

Huh, and just when I started to think you're a class act.

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