My kids have ADHD!help!

Do you go to Yale???

Ces: First off Welcome to A2k,

Ok, so you're 18 years old? Do you live with your parents or on your own? Did you tell the authories you were raped?

Would you consider adoption or abortion?

Honestly I can't tell you its gonna be ok.... you have to tell yourself that first because if you can't see that yourself then no matter what anyone says you won't believe it...

So you are 2 months pregnant now?

4 year olds are active. Do you know for sure they are ADD? ADD is not hyperactivity. It is a lot more than that.

I don't think that at 18 you should be considering another child. 3 babies and you are alone and still a kid? This means you had those babies at age 14? How did you get pregnant then?

I think you should be considering abortion or adoption. Adoption being my solution.

Sometimes discipline problems can be interpreted as ADHD. I can't imagine that you have an ideal situation for them or for you. You need to try try try to find some support. If you had your two kids at age 14, and no help, then I'm not surprised that they climb the walls.

I'm really sorry about your situation. It's pretty clear that you don't want another child. Are you worried that you will get depressed from having an abortion or from having the baby? Both can be quite depressing. I would make arrangements as soon as possible for one of the two As. Keep in mind that in a private adoption the mother's expenses are often paid for by the adopting family. And if you find a really good home for your child before it's born you'll feel a lot better about giving it up.

As for your kids, there are a lot of parenting resources on the web. There is so much good advice out there for free that there's no reason not to take advantage of that. Read read read. And use your newfound knowledge to improve your parenting.

hey,thanks for all these replies,they are helpin,i know my kids have adhd coz they on meds for it...it helps alot actully,i hate seein them on pills at there age but it really does calm em down. im gonna look into the adoption thing,i was abused by my at the time bf,i never wanted sex but he made me,its over and done with now tho.i like to think im a good parent,i love my kids to bits and i never let them see that i am upset,i no they can tell wen im a bit down,but i always play wiv em...read em stories and always make sure they have things they need,or want for that matter. thank you again xx

High sugar diets in young children OFTEN cause add &adhd symptoms. Many times, actually i would say 99% of the time a child diet is NEVER looked at as the source of the problem.
Sugary cereals, candy , snacks, and alot of other junk food that is given as quick meals contain more sugar then any one body no matter what age, can metabolize .
Sugar creates a ' high' that begins with hyperactivity, builds into distraction , inability to focus and ends with crankyness. This cycle begins and ends several times a day. The distraction and inability to focus continues all day. This sugar cycle is mistaken sometimes as ADD.
Check your childs diet. Breakfast cereals that are ment for kids often contain what is about 20 grams of sugar per serving wich is equivelent to 10 teaspoons of granulated sugar. Sugars are addictive also. So throw in addictive behaviors - crankyness, fatigue, sleeplessness etc.. and you have most of the common symptoms of ADD.
Im not saying your kids DONT have ADD, Im just pointing out a possible diffrent source for these behaviors.

And, to add to shewolf's ideas, it can't hurt to keep tabs on their diet even if they have ADD. Rosesrred, it's clear you love your children. We all try to be the best we can be. I personally frequently avail myself of the advice of folks on the web and in books because there are so many things about parenting that I would never be able to figure out by myself, and I didn't have any good models to emulate. It was in a book that I learned how important things like diet, consistency, and routine are to small children. I learned how to discipline without violence and how to coax and distract children to guide their behavior. I'm no perfect mother, but the things I've learned from others have been priceless.

Good luck again. I wish you the best.

Phoenix caught it

rosesrred has 4 year old twins and is 18 years old. Does
this ring a bell to someone else.....

Not to me. Have we been duped? I guess I should keep a closer eye on these threads...

I am confused now!

wha?
is that a movie plot?
Im lost as well..

Your 4 year old twins are on meds for ADHD????

ADD and ADHD cannot be adequately assessed until at *least* first grade, and even then IMO it is very often over-diagnosed and the child put on stimulant therapies when a change in diet can, in many cases, completely alleviate the symptoms. Preschoolers on meds for adhd makes me ill, and I would question your child's pediatrician very thoroughly as to why a four year old should be on meds.

In addition to the sugars mentioned by Shewolfnm and others, you should also keep red dyes out of their diet. Drinks such as 'Hawaiian Punch', red 'Kool Aid', and others are known to cause reactions in many kids due to the red dye used to color the drinks.

I'm not sure what the 'Yale' connection refers to. Even if this post is a dupe, I'd rather be on the record that medicating a four year old for adhd is a travesty.

I agree with J_B.

And now I hope someone will explain the Yale thing....

Well, it looks like the thread is a hoax.
Two and two don't add up, pregnant at 13, having 4 year
old twins now at 18, who are diagnosed with ADHD and
on medication. Never mind the wrong spelling, in my opinion, done on purpose.