My best friend is courting me.

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More than a year ago, I met this patient and faithful guy in a local church gathering. I wasn’t expecting that he’d become my best friend since I see it as so good to be true. Little did I know that I’ll fall in love with him as time goes by and that the feeling is actually mutual. Last Sunday, he confessed his feelings to me and I felt so unmoved. I just can’t explain it-- I believe I’m falling for him badly. I really wanted to give my “yes” to him but I’m quite afraid of one thing: that he’ll see me as “no way better” than his ex. Her ex broke up with him last 2016, ditched her with another guy and got married. I love him but I just don’t want to become a bandage for his wounded heart. Shall this prevent us from going into the next level or shall I strip my fear away? I badly need some advice.

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@parker301988,

Suppose this situation doesn't change for a year: then, in a year, you would have the same doubts and feelings... Because you can't look in his heart, and you can't second guess his feelings for you, just as he can't second guess your feelings.

He confessed his feelings for you, so trust in them, and accept.

Good luck!

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@parker301988,

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I just don’t want to become a bandage for his wounded heart.

This makes no sense. His ex dumped him 2 years ago (2016) so I seriously doubt he sees you as a bandage for his wounded heart.
You say you love him and he has told you he has feelings for you. So just go with the flow. Give it a chance. Like any relationship, you never know until you get into it.

Good luck.

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To me this situation is not a complicated one. Both of you go to the same church so why not involve yourself with him in some church activities. In that way both of you should be able to understand each other better without commiting to each other. You may find he is "on the same boat" as you or the complete opposite. On the downside making a bad decision could influence the relationship with you church etc.

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@parker301988,

It's hard to tell from your post - are you dating this guy? seeing him outside of church?

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@parker301988,

parker301988 wrote:

Little did I know that I’ll fall in love with him as time goes by and that the feeling is actually mutual. Last Sunday, he confessed his feelings to me and I felt so unmoved. I just can’t explain it-- I believe I’m falling for him badly. I really wanted to give my “yes” to him

what yes? did he ask you to date him? to marry him? what?

he told you has feelings for you and you don't care? (feel unmoved)

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Surely if you love him you should feel something? Is it a case of you remember what it was like before & how he dumped you?

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