littlek
 
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Reply Mon 28 Aug, 2006 11:47 pm
Tico wrote:
(((littlek))) and (((Bootsie)))



Quote:
By usurping nature's role throughout the life of our pets, we must sometimes also accept its role in determining (and bringing about) the death of a pet. To accept this, we may also have to accept that, in some cases, the quality of life we're really trying to protect is our own: That we're allowing our pet to suffer out of a desire to avoid the anguish we know that we will experience when it dies. And that, ultimately, is the most unselfish act of love we can offer: To end a pet's suffering, we must choose to accept our own.



From here


Ok, I read it. Thanks Tico. That rainbow bridge website has often been linked to from a2k, but I hadn't seen that page. The last loss was an obvious call, but even then I resisted.
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Tico
 
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Reply Tue 29 Aug, 2006 06:44 am
I find most of the Rainbow Bridge website too sicky-sweet, but that page seemed to be real. Or at least, it sleeved in with my own ethics.

littlek wrote:
... I believe a couple of things about death. I think there is no reflection, post mortum, of any sort. It's lights off. I also believe that everyone dies alone. [snip]


It appears that we have a similar belief system.

littlek wrote:
So, if there is no reflection back after death - why does it matter so much about when you die? How you die is important. Pain should be ended at end of life and should not be instilled if actively ending a life. But, if a dog like Boo is dying a slow, but not painful death [snip] does it matter so much at what point death is induced?


You are focussing on physical pain, but I think there are other types of pain just as compelling.

Right or wrong, I cannot help but project my own values onto my pets. When I can no longer run with the pack, when I must lie in my own waste until someone cleans me up, when I spend most of the hours of a day wondering if anyone will notice me, and when I am at the mercy of everyone and everything, then I hope that someone will have the kindness to euthanize me.

~~~~~~~~

Damn, when I re-read what I wrote it sounds cold. I'm not that way at all -- I want to run and give you and Boo hugs and comfort and make it all better. Life sucks.
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Eva
 
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Reply Tue 29 Aug, 2006 09:01 am
I strongly disagree that we all die alone. It doesn't have to be that way. And I think it's very important that you be there with Bootsie when her time comes. I think it would make a huge difference to her. (And to you, of course.)

(((((HUGS)))))
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littlek
 
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Reply Tue 29 Aug, 2006 11:15 am
Eva - I agree that I should be there with boo, I wasn't suggesting that I abondon her. I'm talking about that last moment, not all the last momentS that lead up to it.
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littlek
 
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Reply Tue 29 Aug, 2006 11:20 am
Tico - thanks, you're giving me lots of food for thought.
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littlek
 
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Reply Wed 30 Aug, 2006 01:02 am
Tico wrote:


Quote:
the quality of life we're really trying to protect is our own: That we're allowing our pet to suffer out of a desire to avoid the anguish we know that we will experience when it dies.




I have thought that I was protecting my dog's quality of life at the expense of mine.
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msolga
 
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Reply Wed 30 Aug, 2006 06:05 am
I understand what you're saying there, k.
This has been a huge commitment on your part.
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JPB
 
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Reply Wed 30 Aug, 2006 06:11 am
How'r you doing today, k?
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Chai
 
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Reply Wed 30 Aug, 2006 06:43 am
lil'k

my heart goes out to you....it's so hard.

when the time came to put Lulu down, they treated her like a little queen.

they took her in the other room to put an IV in, but decided not to. No good veins, not worth putting her under more stress.

When they carried her back out to us, they are put her in this soft little bed. It was more than a regular pet bed, it was like for royalty.

Her last moments were with the one she loved best caressing her, while she rested in a soft downy cloud. She had her head up when she got the shot, and just slowly put it down, like she decided to take a good nap.

Although it was so hard, she knew she was loved.

That's how Boo will feel.
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Bella Dea
 
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Reply Wed 30 Aug, 2006 06:58 am
Hanging in there?

This has got to be hard... we are all thinking of you.

((((((littlek))))))
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Chai
 
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Reply Wed 30 Aug, 2006 08:00 am
sorry, I was writing like I retarded or something in the middle there. Embarrassed
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littlek
 
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Reply Wed 30 Aug, 2006 02:04 pm
It's done. It hasn't really hit me fully. It seems that the build up was harder than the actual moment and aftermath. We were outside, on a patch of grass with a very compassionate vet and vet tech. I hugged her an we locked eyes. My hair sort of provided some privacy. Both of my parents came with me. I don't feel guilty, I do feel like it really was the right time. Yep, like she fell asleep in my arms....

Thank you all for being here through this.
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ossobuco
 
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Reply Wed 30 Aug, 2006 02:07 pm
OK.

(((((((((((((Hug)))))))))))))
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Region Philbis
 
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Reply Wed 30 Aug, 2006 02:07 pm
rest in peace, boo...
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Wed 30 Aug, 2006 02:08 pm
ohhhh

Bye bye Boo.

Love ya MissK.
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JPB
 
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Reply Wed 30 Aug, 2006 02:13 pm
((((littlek))))))

RIP, Boo.

<glad you weren't alone at the time, k>
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Tico
 
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Reply Wed 30 Aug, 2006 02:18 pm
I truly believe that it is the greatest act of love.

(((littlek)))

Tonight, I will light a candle for Boo.
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CalamityJane
 
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Reply Wed 30 Aug, 2006 02:20 pm
big hug for you littlek. You did the right thing -
Boo was comfortable in your arms when she fell asleep.
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sozobe
 
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Reply Wed 30 Aug, 2006 02:39 pm
Ohhhhhhh... tears.

I'm glad that you felt that rightness when it happened, littlek.

Take care.
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Slappy Doo Hoo
 
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Reply Wed 30 Aug, 2006 03:05 pm
Well Boo couldn't have had a better life, you took great care of her. Sorry about your loss, K. RIP Boo.
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