@centrox,
Yes, as my expressing that the gift was not really my style only happened last night, and what followed were several hours of fairly wrenching conversation, I reached out to you all for some kind of sense and common ground which you have given me - thanks for that. Unfortunately I could not find such a sense last night - it all struck me as very irrational.
I spent the day alone thinking and have found myself muttering “what a jerk” or worse. Oh and I took the bracelet out of the drawer to have another look at it and it really is quite gaudy! This is a man I have been quite madly in love with for some months now. He has been very generous, not only with paying for things but also with affection, care and love. That said, it seems he can veer off into infantile territory and be quick with his tongue.
Centox, your arrangement with your wife that enables her to choose her own jewellery is emotionally sophisticated but also it is the obvious thing to do if you ask me. And about your pretty bird in a cage remark, it opened my eyes a little further - what can I say - the fact is that this man probably has been doing a bit too much plumping and pluming at times. On the one hand this is nice because every woman wants to feel beautiful for their man and I enjoy looking good but if I’m honest there have been moments when it has made me uncomfortable.
Ugh, it's all a bit disappointing. Thanks again.