Wed 19 Jul, 2017 03:31 am
So, hey.. actually I'm a girl and I've a boyfriend... we've been dating for 1 year. We are a really very happy couple.. But I have a problem... Actually... He's 9 years older than me... He's very mature.. I'm a mature person too but he thinks the opposite.. I'm sure that I'm mature as many friends, adults and also my family always tell me that I'm a very mature person.. I feel very bad when my boyfriend calls me immature.. And I can't say he's wrong because when I'm with him, I'm a bit childish.. I act different.. I don't wanna act childish with him but it happens automatically and I guess it's because I'm comfortable when I'm with him.. My questions here is what should I do to show him that I'm mature? It's hard to be mature around him and I don't know the reason behind this.. Can someone help?
Seems to me you enjoy being a bit childish with him, so why is that a problem? Does he resent that? Or does he enjoy it too? Many men like a "child woman", and like being childish themselves. Maybe he should relax a bit.
Maturity will come to you soon enough... Life beats us to pulp and we "mature" as a result. And then he will probably feel a bit of nostalgia for that time when you behaved as a "child woman". :-)
I agree with the above post.
It also may be your personality - light, fun and somewhat impulsive.
His temperament may be more thoughtful, cautious or even rigid.
Can you tell us what "immature" things you do to make him say that?
Observe yourself. What do you think he might think weird about you when you are with him? Maybe when you are with him, you wanted him to treat you like a baby. Sometimes it happens but try not to do it all the time. It might be annoying.
no it's not obligatry to be the right person that he likes be your own, u already said it, "I'm comfortable when I'm with him" that's my point of view,