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The anti-gay marriage movement IS homophobic

 
 
blatham
 
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Reply Tue 17 May, 2005 08:50 am
Foxfyre wrote:
Ah I see. Because there has been slavery and racism and anti-Semitism, you can justify criticism of Christians and see no prejudice or discrimination, but gays are untouchable because those other things exist? You don't see your comment as a substantial straw man and/or a huge double standard?


Are you actually trying to think clearly?

No special leave is required to justify criticism of christianity or christians or gays or unions or you or the President. Everyone is equally fair game and subject to criticism. Criticize gays until the cows come home, if you want to. Expect it right back.

Organize and work to demean them as a class of humans, and to establish or maintain laws which infringe on their rights as equal and free citizens and you put a knife in your own foolish back. When the majority turns against christians (the second largest faith group in the US now is Muslim) you'll have no principle left to defend yourself because it is, your past will prove it, the majority who establish what is good and what is evil.
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Setanta
 
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Reply Tue 17 May, 2005 08:52 am
That should induce a spate of illogical objection . . . you're moving from point to point much too rapidly . . .
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Chrissee
 
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Reply Tue 17 May, 2005 08:46 pm
Foxfyre wrote:
In all due respect Chrissee, I think it is the straw man conclusions such as you just drew that keeps the war going. The all or nothing mindset is its own form of intolerance.



You need to look up the meaning of strawman conclusions. I have experienced the hate and bigotry FIRSTHAND. Oh so you will allow to sit in the middle of ther bus, whoop te do. Sorry, not interested, reminds me of Orwell.

"All pigs are created equal but some are more equal than others"
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Foxfyre
 
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Reply Wed 18 May, 2005 06:38 am
Blatham writes
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Are you actually trying to think clearly?

No special leave is required to justify criticism of christianity or christians or gays or unions or you or the President. Everyone is equally fair game and subject to criticism. Criticize gays until the cows come home, if you want to. Expect it right back.


If you do not wish anyone to think you are comparing the gay marriage issue with slavery, killing Jews, etc., then I suggest you do not include those comparisons in your argument. Chrissy made the same kind of comparison and then also objects when it is pointed out.
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McGentrix
 
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Reply Wed 18 May, 2005 07:01 am
blatham wrote:
Foxfyre wrote:
Ah I see. Because there has been slavery and racism and anti-Semitism, you can justify criticism of Christians and see no prejudice or discrimination, but gays are untouchable because those other things exist? You don't see your comment as a substantial straw man and/or a huge double standard?


Are you actually trying to think clearly?

No special leave is required to justify criticism of christianity or christians or gays or unions or you or the President. Everyone is equally fair game and subject to criticism. Criticize gays until the cows come home, if you want to. Expect it right back.

Organize and work to demean them as a class of humans, and to establish or maintain laws which infringe on their rights as equal and free citizens and you put a knife in your own foolish back. When the majority turns against christians (the second largest faith group in the US now is Muslim) you'll have no principle left to defend yourself because it is, your past will prove it, the majority who establish what is good and what is evil.


What kind of drek is this?

When the majority turns against Christians?

The majority ARE Christians. 70% of America is Christian. I'd also like to point out that Islam has an even dimmer view on homosexuality that Christianity does.
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blatham
 
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Reply Wed 18 May, 2005 07:25 am
Foxfyre wrote:
Blatham writes
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Are you actually trying to think clearly?

No special leave is required to justify criticism of christianity or christians or gays or unions or you or the President. Everyone is equally fair game and subject to criticism. Criticize gays until the cows come home, if you want to. Expect it right back.


If you do not wish anyone to think you are comparing the gay marriage issue with slavery, killing Jews, etc., then I suggest you do not include those comparisons in your argument. Chrissy made the same kind of comparison and then also objects when it is pointed out.


Apparently, you are not trying to think very clearly or, trying, not achieving it.

Anti-gay sentiment and prejudice are comparable to anti-jewish or anti-christian or anti-Muslim or racist or misogenist sentiment and prejudice. Such sentiment and prejudice set a class or community of citizens apart from all others and declare them less worthy, less equal.

That gays are not rounded up and trucked to gas chambers here (though, of course, gays were murdered en masse with the jews and gypsies in Germany) is a difference in degree of ostracism, but degree only. A bully who slaps a girl and another bully who kills someone are both bullies. An anti-semite who derogates jews in his blog and another who hunts them down to kill them are both anti-semitic bigots.

And, so we are clear on another point, to criticize some portion of the community of people who consider themselves christians because of either particular beliefs or particular activist endeavors is NOT an instance of bigotry. If that isn't crystal clear, simply look back at things you (or george) have said about some portions of the Muslim community.
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blatham
 
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Reply Wed 18 May, 2005 07:39 am
McG wrote
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What kind of drek is this?

When the majority turns against Christians?

The majority ARE Christians. 70% of America is Christian. I'd also like to point out that Islam has an even dimmer view on homosexuality that Christianity does.


Exchange the word 'when' for the word 'if'.

Why do we subscribe to any principles of equality ("all men are created equal")? To ensure that majorities, or those in power, do not scapegoat and set some groups aside (christians, jews, homos, wetbacks, niggras) to deny them equal membership in the larger community. We subscribe to such principles because if we do not, whatever group we are a member of becomes a potential target for ostracism or worse.

For foxfyre, or anyone such as Falwell's or Robertson's crowds to drop this principles regarding gays is to leave the door open for their own groups to be so targeted.
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Foxfyre
 
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Reply Wed 18 May, 2005 07:40 am
Well if you wish be understood to be clear on that point, neither is criticizing an initiative to redefine the definition of marriage an instance of bigotry or prejudice against gays.

You can't have it both ways no matter how many straw men arguments to draw in to make your point. You can't say Blatham can criticize whomever for whatever reason and not be bigoted but Foxfyre or nobody else can criticize a redefinition of marriage and not be bigoted against gays. THAT is unclear thinking.
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blatham
 
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Reply Wed 18 May, 2005 08:12 am
Foxfyre wrote:
Well if you wish be understood to be clear on that point, neither is criticizing an initiative to redefine the definition of marriage an instance of bigotry or prejudice against gays.

You can't have it both ways no matter how many straw men arguments to draw in to make your point. You can't say Blatham can criticize whomever for whatever reason and not be bigoted but Foxfyre or nobody else can criticize gay marriage and not be bigoted against gays. THAT is unclear thinking.


Criticizing an initiative isn't necessarily bigotry, rather obviously. Criticizing the star wars initiative isn't bigotry. Criticizing Bush's social security initatives isn't bigotry.

But criticism of initiatives put forward by Kennedy or Johnston during the civil rights movement was almost entirely bigotry, driven by a sensibility that held blacks inferior.

And that is the second time you've claimed I advance a strawman argument. So get it clear in your noggin just what a strawman argument is and then demonstrate where I've made one. Or, as Bill O'Reilly always says, shut up, just shut up, shut up, shut up shut up shut up shut up. Rats, I can't really do that as good as he does it.
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McGentrix
 
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Reply Wed 18 May, 2005 08:27 am
blatham wrote:
McG wrote
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What kind of drek is this?

When the majority turns against Christians?

The majority ARE Christians. 70% of America is Christian. I'd also like to point out that Islam has an even dimmer view on homosexuality that Christianity does.


Exchange the word 'when' for the word 'if'.

Why do we subscribe to any principles of equality ("all men are created equal")? To ensure that majorities, or those in power, do not scapegoat and set some groups aside (christians, jews, homos, wetbacks, niggras) to deny them equal membership in the larger community. We subscribe to such principles because if we do not, whatever group we are a member of becomes a potential target for ostracism or worse.

For foxfyre, or anyone such as Falwell's or Robertson's crowds to drop this principles regarding gays is to leave the door open for their own groups to be so targeted.


Just so we are clear on this;

We subscribe to the principles of equality because that's what this country is about. The fact that the majority of the country believes that a marriage should be STRICTLY between a man and a woman, regardless of their color, height, weight, religion, sexual preference, peircings, or other defining feature.

We discriminate this way because the population wants to keep a certain moral standard. That standard also keeps our prison population at such a high percentage.

No one on A2K is trying to demean anyone else, Well, with the exception of Setanta, as a class of humans. I hold no special regard for Christianity other than respecting their beliefs for what they are, beliefs. You may target them as you wish, they are certainly deserving.

Just keep in mind that not ALL Christians are represented by Falwell just as not ALL gays are represented by Chrissee.
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blatham
 
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Reply Wed 18 May, 2005 08:43 am
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Just keep in mind that not ALL Christians are represented by Falwell

Let's start here. This statement is clearly true. For Jerry I have a little poem...rose are red, violets are blue, I like a lot of christians but I don't like you. Anti-gay bigotry is NOT a christian phenomenon as there are many christians who don't think or do it. But where sectors of the christian community are guilty, they are guilty. Falwell's is one, other evangelical or fundamentalist organizations and churchs who do it are another, and the Catholic church is another, and various corners of the Muslim groups are another, and corners of the fundamentalist Judaic community are another, and British Columbia lumberjacks with an IQ of 88 can be another.

This isn't bigotry from the christian church...it is bigotry from portions of that broad church community.

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We discriminate this way because the population wants to keep a certain moral standard. That standard also keeps our prison population at such a high percentage.


A moral standard? Is gay sex a moral issue? Why is gay sex immoral? Who says so? On what basis is this adjudication made. How is it different from the earlier moral standard which held that oral/genital contact was immoral? Or that interracial marriage was immoral?
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McGentrix
 
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Reply Wed 18 May, 2005 09:13 am
No, gay sex is not a moral issue. Gays can have all the sex they want. Gay marriage, is the issue.

Marriage has too much baggage attached to it. As I have explained in the past, and will continue doing so in the future, forcing the population to accept gay marriage is not the direction the gay community should be tacking. They should be trying to get a legal social contract that allows gays the equivalent rights in partership that a marriage does now.

Were I a homosexual, I would be demanding that ALL unions be performed thusly. Allowing the religious to keep the idea of marriage whole, but leveling the playing field for all.
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georgeob1
 
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Reply Wed 18 May, 2005 09:34 am
blatham wrote:

And, so we are clear on another point, to criticize some portion of the community of people who consider themselves christians because of either particular beliefs or particular activist endeavors is NOT an instance of bigotry. If that isn't crystal clear, simply look back at things you (or george) have said about some portions of the Muslim community.



I'll buy that. No one, and no group is or should be immune to criticism, and all deserve it in some instances.

The flip side of this is tolerance. In civil & governance matters this, in my view, is the key principle. I don't share Chrissee's views on most of these issues, but I am willing to tolerate hers and the lifestyle she chooses. I expect the same from her - no more, no less. I have expressed no value judgements concerning her personal choices or tastes, though she has frequently done so to me. This is intolerance. We need less of it.
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blatham
 
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Reply Wed 18 May, 2005 09:45 am
george

Yes, tolerance is the key in my understanding of how community human relationships ought to evolve or be directed. To me it seems a fundamental value within the christian tradition and a fundamental value underlying notions of democracy from the greeks through the framers of your constitution. The value suggests fundamental equality.

It also suggests, simply through its existence as an principle so worthy of voice, that other social factors opposing it are real and dangerous - such as the tendency we humans in community have to scapegoat and fall into exclusivist 'us' versus 'them' frameworks of thought, or the tendencies towards tenacious social hierarchies.
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georgeob1
 
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Reply Wed 18 May, 2005 10:04 am
Blatham,

Here we agree, and I suspect both of us have always recognized that in each other - even in spite of all the rhetoric.

Tolerance is indeed a virtue in the Christian lexicon, as it is in many other world views (but not all). At the same time, the basic human material and failings are monotonously similar and familiar across all groups of humans (even Irish Republicans). We often should get tolerance, not because we deserve it, but because intolerance injures the one who is in its grip.

I don't believe that the civic virtue of tolerance requires that we suspend our critical facilties or the ability to make reasoned judgements about the worth or merits of various alternatives before us. Tolerance does not require that we assign equal value to all behaviors, rather that we recognize equal potential value in all humans, and avoid presumptive judgement and action.
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blatham
 
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Reply Wed 18 May, 2005 06:38 pm
This is getting all-together too chummy. May you wake up tomorrow and find you have become George Galloway, heroic Scotsman.

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I don't believe that the civic virtue of tolerance requires that we suspend our critical facilties or the ability to make reasoned judgements about the worth or merits of various alternatives before us. Tolerance does not require that we assign equal value to all behaviors, rather that we recognize equal potential value in all humans, and avoid presumptive judgement and action.


Yes, again. But how do we go about making such discernments?

My fundamental position is negative. That is, I reject the authority of any body or person to over-rule the individual in his/her personal life choices (with all the usual 'consenting, knowledgeable, mature, etc' caveats). I reject, most particularly, any claim from any body or person that they are in possession of unique or priviledged moral truths regarding anyone other than themselves personally.

Additionally, my observations of humans in community suggest that we are prone to particular behaviors or temptations as regards violating that negative position above: we tend to scapegoat; we tend to organize in 'us' and 'them' categories with the 'them' people getting the short end of the stick; we tend to seek power, status and superior wealth over others in the community and we will then seek to maintain it, denying it to others; we tend to seek/demand conformity; we tend to put controls in place on sexuality.

Thus, to my mind, the proper function of community institutions will include safeguards against these temptations in order to maintain, as completely as possible, the negative liberty position for each of us. In actual practice, this entails protecting the minority from the majority and protecting the individual from the authority demanding conformity, and protecting the weak from the powerful.
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georgeob1
 
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Reply Wed 18 May, 2005 07:31 pm
blatham wrote:
This is getting all-together too chummy. May you wake up tomorrow and find you have become George Galloway, heroic Scotsman.


That'ill do it. However Galloway is such an outrageous liar and charlatain that he has some perverse appeal.

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My fundamental position is negative. That is, I reject the authority of any body or person to over-rule the individual in his/her personal life choices (with all the usual 'consenting, knowledgeable, mature, etc' caveats). I reject, most particularly, any claim from any body or person that they are in possession of unique or priviledged moral truths regarding anyone other than themselves personally.


Perhaps OK, but this requires some limits. What if the life choice of the person next door is to play loud redneck hymns all day & night, so you can't hear your Mahler or have the peace to make up your metaphors, etc.? What if he organizes and demands that you avoid all criticism of his music, and that it will be played in the elevator at least six hours every day, starting at the hour you habitually leave? What if he insists on labelling you an hymnophobic and including instruction in the schools on the dangers of hymnophobia and the benefits of hymnodiversity?

I suspect lots of people on one issue or another hold what they regard to be universal moral truths. Many of them even read the New York Times. Indeed most of the columnists who write for that paper appear to me to believe they have particular access to various universal truths. I have observed expressions coming even from you that suggest to me that you have certain beliefs that you regard as uniuversal and applicable to all.

Not much wrong with any of that in my view. The problem comes in how we govern our actions in response to these ideas.

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Additionally, my observations of humans in community suggest that we are prone to particular behaviors or temptations as regards violating that negative position above: we tend to scapegoat; we tend to organize in 'us' and 'them' categories with the 'them' people getting the short end of the stick; we tend to seek power, status and superior wealth over others in the community and we will then seek to maintain it, denying it to others; we tend to seek/demand conformity; we tend to put controls in place on sexuality.
True enough, and some of the 'communities' that do this are quite liberal and secular too.

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Thus, to my mind, the proper function of community institutions will include safeguards against these temptations in order to maintain, as completely as possible, the negative liberty position for each of us. In actual practice, this entails protecting the minority from the majority and protecting the individual from the authority demanding conformity, and protecting the weak from the powerful.
I agree, but the devil is in the details. I suspect the radical religious right evangelicals, you and Lola find so dangerous, very seriously regard themselves as a beleagured minority, fighting hard to just slow down the loss of their perogatives at the hands of a very rich, powerful and demanding secular establishment with its own notions of conformity.

There just might be an objective reality involving some immutable truths. That means that, with regard to them, some of us might be right and others wrong. Regardless of that, none of us wishes to let go of his ability to assign merit and value to things, discriminating the good from the bad, the desirable from the undesirable, and to act (within reason) on those judgements.

I believe it ultimately comes down to the recognition that all humans have moral worth ithat is ndependent of our opinions of them, and that we must retain a certain respect for it. Tolerance.
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mesquite
 
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Reply Wed 18 May, 2005 10:52 pm
McGentrix wrote:
No, gay sex is not a moral issue. Gays can have all the sex they want. Gay marriage, is the issue.

Marriage has too much baggage attached to it. As I have explained in the past, and will continue doing so in the future, forcing the population to accept gay marriage is not the direction the gay community should be tacking. They should be trying to get a legal social contract that allows gays the equivalent rights in partership that a marriage does now.

Were I a homosexual, I would be demanding that ALL unions be performed thusly. Allowing the religious to keep the idea of marriage whole, but leveling the playing field for all.


I never have been able to understand how granting a right to others is seen as taking something away from those that already have the right. In the 44 years that I have been married, my marraige has never been threatened by what others choose to do or not do. The entire flap so far as I can see is nothing more than one group trying to impose their religious based view of morality upon others.

A drive has just begun in Arizona to amend the state constitution.

Drive is on to ban gay marriage
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The petition drive, filed Monday, would amend the state constitution to recognize only marriage between one man and one woman. Polls have shown strong support for such a measure.

The proposal, being pushed by the Center for Arizona Policy, which advertises itself as promoting pro-family laws and values, also would bar the state, counties, cities and school districts from creating or recognizing legal status for unmarried couples "that is similar to that of marriage." The coalition behind the petition drive also includes the Arizona Catholic Conference, which is the public policy agency for the Roman Catholic Dioceses of Phoenix, Tucson and Gallup, N.M.


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Steve May, co-chair of the Arizona Human Rights Fund, said voters may not understand that the proposal could void the policies of several Arizona communities, including Tucson, Scottsdale, Tempe and Pima County, which now extend at least some benefits to the partners of their unmarried workers, whether gay or straight.
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Foxfyre
 
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Reply Fri 20 May, 2005 08:54 am
THe banning of gay marriage is really unfortunate because it makes it so much tougher to arrive at a compromise and subsequent win-win proposition.

If everybody could be broad minded about this whole thing, one side could see how important the traditional definition of marriage is to a great many people and allow them to have that. And everybody could understand the need for same sex couples and others to have the protections and benefits inherent in the marriage contract.

If the uptight religious who oppose homosexuality would just shut up and not interfere, and if the uptiight pro-gay-marriage crowd would just be willing to compromise on a single word (pick another word for marriage), everybody could have what they want and need and that would go a huge way toward creating a more tolerant and compatible environment for everybody.

The all or nothing approach to the issue is not likely to get it done in this decade or even maybe in our lifetime.
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blatham
 
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Reply Fri 20 May, 2005 10:48 am
fox

I understand this. One can pretty easily imagine, after the civil war was over, that a lot of folks were less concerned with the right and wrong of it all and wished to heaven it had never happened.

I'll speak to you quite honestly here. Given that gay couples might gain all the legal and financial benefits that accrue to heterosexual couples, even that wouldn't make the grade for me though it may well for many of the people actually affected.

I have three targets in my sights on this matter. One is maintenance of an incredibily fragile principle, that of equality. It is so fragile because it conflicts with our innate tendency to think in terms of 'us' and 'them'. It's a battle I suspect we'll never win in any terminated sense.

My second target is Karl Rove, or anyone of his sort, who (you understand, this is how I've come to conceive of a fundamental dynamic at work in this matter) seeks to divide the nation's population and pit them against each other. His motivations are not entirely transparent and he may be certain that what he does is for the good of everyone. But it could be otherwise as well. Regardless of sincerity or civic-mindedness, I consider the consequences of what he is doing (as I understand what he is doing) to be deeply destructive to the community because it plays on 'us' versus 'them', builds that up and makes it more pronounced and active.

And my third target is the one which you and george bump into...that anyone is more closely connected to the divine than others. I reject this conception. I think it as dangerous a tendency in us as any we have. I have no problem with anyone reaching towards his or her conception of divinity. But when it takes on the coloration, once again, of 'us' ('chosen people', 'the elect') but not 'them', then it too plays to this tendency in us.
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