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Reply Tue 14 Feb, 2017 02:44 am
I have been with my boyfriend for 11 years (just turned 11 years on January). On January 18 (I think, or earlier), I found out that he cheated on me . I confronted him the day I figured it out. He denied it. I messaged the girl through FB messenger and through hours of interrogating her, she finally admitted it, and even provided pictures (nothing sexual, only kissing). I showed him the picture and he was speechless. What kind of person would do that? I thought we had a really good relationship. We have two beautiful daughters. I always ask myself every day, what did I do wrong? He said that he didn't like or love her. Is this a ******* joke? Is he just telling me what I want to hear? Should I stay with this person? I really don't want to have my kids grow up without a father, because he is a really good one. Help!
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Reply Tue 14 Feb, 2017 05:23 am
@TayBabauta,
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I have been with my boyfriend for 11 years...

Is there a reason you didn't get married at some time over the last 11 yrs? Especially after having 2 children, many (though not all) choose to get married.

Honesty and faithfulness are very important qualities to most who are committed couples. If you no longer want to be with him, they wouldn't necessarily grow up without a father. You could kick him to the curb if you see no future as a couple, but not cut him out of their lives.

BTW, generally speaking, good fathers do not lie and cheat on their partners.

You could ask him to go to couple's counseling, as a possibility. However, if you no longer want him in your home as your partner, he's still their father but he could visit them but not live with you. There ARE alternatives.
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Skeleton
 
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Reply Tue 14 Feb, 2017 06:29 am
He lied to you. Revenge is the only answer. You must challenge him to a duel and beat the **** out of him, then dump his ass and raise the two kids yourself. He will never get to see them again because he is a subhuman sack of ****.
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Reply Mon 25 Sep, 2017 02:01 pm
@TayBabauta,
If your asking if someone can love you while or after they are doing that? The answer is yes, they can and in reality most times do actually love you. There is something there that is broken inside them beyond that. What that is for him I do not know and until that's found and fixed I don't believe that it will get better. Now I am not saying it can't get better but to say STOP!!! and expecting it to actually stop with out addressing the issue as to why he is doing it won't get you anywhere. I have now been on both sides of the cheating game and either side is nowhere you ever want to be. Unless he is a true sociopath than I believe if you two work at it and want it. resolve what the real issues are you can make it stronger and better.
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