Brief story heyidc.
Not about sex, but expectations about how one "should" feel.
I had therapy for about a year, and finally agreed to go on medication, so had to be referred to a phychiatrist. I had to go back maybe 3 or 4 times to monitor how the med was working. During the visit I of course shared what was going on, how I was doing/dealing. She knew I was estranged from my parents.
On one visit, I became tearful as I remembered back to the time when my beloved pet of 21 years had died. We talked a bit more, and suddenly I remembered something.
"Oh My God! I just remembered! My mother died last week."
I was stunned for a bit, then expressed how I felt guilty now that I didn't even think about it, and felt "bad" for not feeling sad/bad.
She asked my why I felt that way.
I struggled for a moment to think of why, and said "Well.....People say you're supposed to feel sad....."
All she replied was...."Yes. People do say that, don't they?"