Yes, she did say what she wanted..and he didn't respect it.
wouldnt let me pull my hand away..
she resisted and he wouldn't let her resist, he knew he was making her do what she didn't want to do. That is not respecting her wishes.
There was this one time I said I didnt want to do
Here she did say that she didn't want to....did he respect that? No.
...I once told him not to touch me but he wouldmt stop touching me
And again she told him her desire, and he paid no attention to her request and did what he wanted to anyway. That is not a relationship, it is not making love, it is abusive sex. So in answer to her question...."was I sexually abused?" the answer is yes, she was.
She needs to accept that, and get help if she feels she needs it, and move on.
Any sexual action between couples that is not mutual is abuse of one to the other partner.