Moving with a kiddo

Kids are more resilient then we are, dont worry.
I would keep in mind however any daycare/preschool etc you plan to have her enrolled with...that could put a dimple in her attitude, if nothing else.

You mean, like better to move earlier so she can go to pre-school, make friends, and stay with 'em into Kindergarten? (Long day, [but good!] I'm a bit thick, bear with me... )

I think it's better to move early if it's possible. The more involved a child is with friends, and in school the harder it will be to move. Kids are resilient and at an early age can adapt easily to change. The older and more involved with others they are when the move takes place, the more likely there will be a sense of trauma to overcome.

When my youngest daughter was 2 we moved to L.A. When we had an earthquake, we returned home to live after 5 months. She doesn't even remember the events. She was mostly involved at this time in her life with home, her sister and her parents. She hardly noticed that she had moved, except she was convinced that the witch from the Disneyland ride about Snow White was the culprit when the earth moved.

Hee hee! Interesting.

Yeah, I'm leaning toward earlier is better, too. I'm not sure my plans for pre-school -- I definitely want to be in the place where we are going to stay for a while before kindergarten, but either scenario (3, 4) would work. However, she already has some friends that she would miss if we moved, and is getting more social all the time, so earlier does make more sense in that regard.

She's going to have a really hard time with the moving to a new house part, though. Just her personality. Manageable, but I have no doubt that it will be quite a challenge.