Feeling Mean

I'm getting a little mean on a few of the relationship threads. I should avoid looking at them for a while. On the other hand, Seed, I am interested in your question, and really paying attention to answers.

I haven't had time to peruse the relationship threads yet today. But I think I will hurry over there now and tell them all to grow up. (I hate that too, Kristie.)

I just can't stand it because if you get married you should be adult to know that it takes a lot more than flowers, candy and warm-fuzzies to make a marriage work. Grr....and it does NOT involve a third extra-marital partner.....

I understad that this thread is about being mean... a place to vent the damage of the day, the build up of work. But the site "Able2Know" is a community. the saying goes it takes a village to raise a child. so if it takes a village to raise a child, would it also not take a village to keep the family together? so why should we get made when the family comes to the village for help? But then again I relate to the fact of getting tired of the same problems over and over....


As far as the wit and banter goes, thats one of the things that i enjoy about coming here. the fact that people arent scared to be themselves and say what they mean and say it with respect (most of the time) to the one who is recieve the remark... eh my piece is said... if anyone cars to banter a bit... im here till closing.... er dinner

Oh.. I'm glad you brought this thread back... I'm in the mood to bitch today.

1.) I hate people who get o the elevator to go up or down one floor. There should be a 4 floor minimun to get on the elevator. If your to fat to walk 3 flights of stairs then you are the person who needs it most.. get off your lazy a$$ and get some exercise.

2.) I hate people who give to much information. For example, a woman in line at Starbuck's today ordered an iced tea... with no ice. First that is a stupid request, but when she continued with some sob story about how she can't have ice becasue the ice hurts her teeth but she doesn't like hot tea and iced tea just isn't quite the same without some ice in it blah blah blah. Do you think we give a rat's a$$ why you don't want ice in your iced tea? Does she think that without an explanation that her request will not be granted? Quit wasting my time and shut the heck up.

3.) I know it's cold outside.. I'm wearing a coat... you don't need to tell me.

4.)People who hijack conversation: There is a woman at work that, no matter who you are talking to and about what, she somehow invades the conversation, whether or not she was invited, and turns the conversation towards herself. The conversation HAS to be about her.

I don't care what your baby did last night... I don't care what your cats did last night... I don't care that you speak spanish... I don't care what car you drive... I don't care how much you paid for your car... I don't care...




I feel a little bit better now... Thanks Kristie. Of course the day isn't over yet so I may be back for more.

You're welcome JP!

Seed, it isn't that people are coming here to vent their frustrations or get advice for their problems that makes us mad...it's the fact that they keep coming back with the same problems....and never take the advice.

I just can't stand when people refuse to take responsibility for their actions. That is a huge problem today...if you screw up, have the balls to say you did and then fix it. Don't lay around and bitch and moan about how horrible your life is and how unhappy you are! DO SOMETHING! I understand that some people have depression and you can't just "snap out of" depression....but I am talking about the "HELP ME!" threads where all these people do is say "my marriage is misrable....my wife doesn't do this....my husband doesn't do that.....we don't talk anymore....we don't make love anymore.....my god....at what point do you say to yourself that it might be smart to TALK to your spouse....a week later....a month later....a year? Come on. It's not that hard.

maybe it is... maybe thats whats wrong with their marriage...

the obvious problem in a lot of these marriages is that people are selfish. They don't want to work at it. They don't want to dirty their hands. It's suppose to be all warm and fuzzy and just happen. Well, those of us who are in happy marriages know that that is not true. It isn't always fun and exciting. There aren't flowers everyday. Underwear needs washing. The house needs cleaning. Bills need to be paid. And relationships need to be fed. It isn't always easy to talk but you do it. Why? Because you made a committment to someone. Love is so much more than a feeling you get. The happiest marriages are those that fought together through the bad times because then they know how strong their love for each other really is.

oh and also....the girl who just had some A2Ker's do her homework for her......stuff like that pisses me off....I don't really know what makes us who we are but I can tell you what this is going to make her....L-A-Z-Y

could it maybe be this? that these people thought that had the american dream? the 2 story house, the white picket fence, the 2.5 kids. two cars and a dog likcing your leg under the dinning room table? could it be that now that this dream has turned into nightmare that they need to turn to someone for help? but they dont want to turn to a face that can show disappointment, to turn to a voice that can hurt with the way they say something. that the easiest way of getting help is to ask a group of people who can only respond with written words.... words that show no emotion other then capitalized letters? i understand how repetitive threads can get on your nerves. but have you also noticed that most of these people who are asking for help are "just hatched"? that they havnt taken the time to look through the threads and see if any could help them out. i can say thousands of things... but i understand where you are coming from Kristie... it does get tiresome, but sometimes you just gotta say your piece and be done with it. much like what i am saying right now... i mean no disrespect by means of this post, just that im trying to look at the other side of things. i do enjoy your post kristie. :-D really I do

I am not taking your posts as anything other than your opinion and honestly, I have to respect you for standing up for what you believe. However, in saying that I also have to say that not all these people have nightmares and if they do, most of them were brought on because they were lazy in their realtionship. Granted, there are a few who did everything they could and still, nothing. Or those who are suffering abuse (physical, verbal or emotional) and those people are a totally different case.
The people I am talking about don't really want help. They want someone to say "oh, poor you!". They come for the pity and that makes me mad. The people that really deserve sympathy never ask for it. They get sympathy from others because it is truely appropriate. I can't stand it when people "ask" for pity.
Like I said...I hate P (poor) M (me) S (syndrome)

Seed, you're a class act on A2K, no need for me to be redundant, I've already praised you on other threads.
I'm getting burned out on all the other redundancy on this forum...and to be spouting on this thread means I need a time out. I've done it before and it works for me.

- A2k is a question answering forum, described in google as Ask the Experts. I'm an old homework question scowler, from back when I was on abuzz, used to be quite snappish about it, but here we try to be helpful with hints on how to find answers on google, and possible key words to use, and sometimes we just give the answer with an explanation if we know it.

The best way to deal with the homework kiddies is to take a deep breath, and then confuse them further.

As for relationships and marriage, I go on people who post in other forums as well. That gives me a sense of trust. One thread or multiple threads regarding the same topic, in the same forum, tend to make me uninterested.

Cav, glad you're here. Duh...I deleted your adress...one more time please??

maybe I am being unreasonable and bitchy.....but I don't care. I am probably being childish but at least I'll admit it. Ok, I'll stop. Cav and Osso have made me feel guilty about my behavior....

why don't they have a smiley with it's tongue out?? :wink:

now that you mention it Kristie you are right on that note.... the ones who post do seem to be looking for sympathy. i had not noticed it till you said something and then i thought over some of the threads i had read... they do seem to be searching for a hug and a pat on the back saying there are more fish in the see. where has it all gone? where oh where has it gone? -cries and cries til that little snot bubble comes out his nose- sorry sorry i lost my composure for a minute... im back.... lets just say relationships are trucked but with a f and not a tr.... but not all of them... -crosses fingers and hopes his girlfriend doesnt stumble upon this post -;-)

Kristie, I assure you, confusing them further, those homework kiddies, will not only give you more satisfaction, it will help them learn for real.

panzade, (welcome the spam, but my filter is on) [email protected].

oooo, cavs email........dirty pictures...he he he....

-wants dirty pictures...wonders if hes the on the one with the porn addiction.... nah....-